ep. 56 on loneliness

Tiffany Bluhm

ep. 56 | Loneliness with Tiffany Bluhm

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Tiffany Bluhm about loneliness. Tiffany’s personal story is a powerful reminder that God sees us, knows us, and cares for us in the most intimate details. She shares what it was like to process the shame and loneliness that came with knowing she was abandoned at birth. But no matter what our background, we can all relate to feeling lonely in certain seasons of life.

So you’ll know her a little better, Tiffany Bluhm, author of the Never Alone trade book and Bible study, is a Bible teacher and writer who is passionate about helping women come to know their value and purpose because of a loving, redeeming God. In a style that speaks to women right where they are, she shares insights from a life spent chasing after Jesus while walking alongside women from suburbia to the inner city, jails and brothels, and the slums of Kolkata. Tiffany speaks regularly at conferences and events, and writes for a number of websites, print publications, and popular blogs, including the YouVersion Bible app. She is the Gatherer-in-Chief of Sip and Savor, a women's gathering in the South Puget Sound serving over 350 women. She lives in Tacoma, Washington, with her husband and two sons, and blogs at TiffanyBluhm.com. Y’all, this stands out as one of the most moving episodes to date. I hope it serves as a reminder that God is with you, even on your darkest of days. 

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. Can you share a little of your story with us?

  3. Did being adopted ever contribute to feelings of loneliness or shame?

  4. We live in a time in which we have access to more people than ever before, and yet so many of us wrestle with loneliness. How prevalent is the fear of being alone? Why is that the case?

  5. Why do feelings of loneliness kind of shake us at the root of who we are?

  6. How do those feelings of inadequacy and loneliness cripple us from doing what God has created us to do? What do they keep us from experiencing?

  7. Where does the gospel meet us in our loneliness? What hope do we have?

  8. How can we begin to speak to our loneliness in a Biblical way or preach the truth to ourselves when we feel lonely?

  9. How do we begin to change when we realize that Christ really is our advocate and that the Holy Spirit will not abandon us? How are we better equipped to fight feelings of loneliness once we realize we’ve been given a Helper?

  10. What is the importance of fellowship within the Body of believers, the Church, when it comes to combating feelings of loneliness? And in that same vein, what encouragement do you have for a woman who has experienced feelings of loneliness within the church?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to take a step out of loneliness towards living like she’s never alone?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Growing up, I came to grips that it was an awful beginning, but God is the redeemer of it. But now I know Christ was there all along. He is faithful each and every day of our lives from birth."
"Offer Jesus the broken pieces. Life is a journey. We give him pieces as we go. We wonder why one part of our life is going so well and another part is a dumpster fire. If we are not willing to offer that to him on the throne then we cannot see healing from that."  
"One of the great places to start to see how Christ feels about you is to look at the women he encountered in the Gospels. Look at these women who all experienced a level of shame. Look at how he treated them and called out who they really were and not how the world saw them." 
"The gospel directly addresses loneliness. You have a companion, a redeemer, a savior, a truth teller, one who will not leave you or forsake you."
"The Scripture says David refreshed himself in the Lord when his back was against the wall and his own soldiers were going to turn on him. It takes an enormous amount of self awareness to admit how much things hurt. When we are able to say, 'Lord this is so painful. Where are you in this?' we will find his companionship and his presence."
"God may not act on our behalf in the way we want or in a way that would tidy up our story. But he will be near. We are not promised for things to turn out perfectly. We are promised his companionship."
"The internal belief affects our external actions." 
"One of the biggest ways I work through the hard moments is I recall his goodness from times past. I am going to stand on top of that as I walk this out." 
"We will not find a happy ending or a complete and redemptive story in anything outside of us on this earth. Whatever we have made our god, whether it is family or finances or friendships, we will always be left wanting more. That is not what is intended to fill us. It will only be satisfied in the King of Kings."

 

TIFFANY’S RESOURCES FOR LONELINESS

Study the women Jesus encountered

 Spiritual and Mental Health

Journal out your story to see God’s hand from beginning to end

 

OTHER RESOURCES

Never Alone: Exchanging Your Tender Hurts for God's Healing Grace by Tiffany Bluhm

Never Alone Bible Study: 6 Encounters With Jesus to Heal Your Deepest Hurts by Tiffany Bluhm

 

TIFFANY’S SIMPLE JOY’S

A meal with beautiful food, beautiful ambience, and with people I love.

 

CONNECT WITH TIFFANY


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ep. 55 on loving our dads well

Jerrad Lopes

ep. 55 | Loving our Dads Well with Jerrad Lopes

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Jerrad Lopes, the host of the Dad Tired podcast, about loving the dads in our lives well. I wanted to do this episode in honor of Father’s Day, which is this Sunday if you aren’t tracking! I know many of us have mixed emotions about a day like Father’s Day. While some of us had incredible fathers, others of us didn’t, while still others didn’t even have an opportunity to know their father. Whatever feelings we maintain toward a holiday like this, they can all be overcome by delighting in this reality: we don’t need a perfect earthly father, because we have a perfect heavenly father who adopted us through his son, Jesus. As his daughters, we are the children of a father who is worthy of all celebration! Jerrad did a great job of encouraging us to glorify God this Father’s Day by loving and honoring the men in our lives exactly where they are, no matter how great or poor their example.

So you’ll know him a little better, Jerrad is a Christian pastor and the founder of Dad Tired,  a non-profit ministry focused on equipping men to lead their family well. He hosts the weekly Dad Tired Podcast he also authored Stop Behaving: A Gospel-Centered Devotional for Men. If you don’t have a copy, it’d be a great gift for the fathers in your life and you can get it 2 day shipping on Amazon Prime! Jerrad and his wife Leila live in Portland, Oregon with their two children where they are also certified foster parents. I can’t wait for you to hear from him today, but you know before I do that I have to tell you about our sponsors that helped make today’s episode possible: HelloFresh and Westrock.

  1. Can you tell us about who you are and what you do?

  2. Can you share with us a little about the makeup of your family? How long have you been a dad?

  3. What is it like to live out the role of a father?

  4. What is God’s intention for fatherhood?

  5. Is that difficult to live out? If so, why?

  6. What hope do we all have (both you, as a father/son, and us, as wives/daughters)?

  7. How might we, as daughters and as wives, encourage our men? What would it look like for us to really breathe grace into the men in our life?

  8. What encourages you to grow in godliness? How can we encourage our brothers/fathers/husbands to that end? On a practical level, how can we help?

  9. What encouragement do you have for a woman who finds herself married to a harsh man, or to a daughter who looks back on her upbringing with bitter disappointment?

  10. Whether we have dads who knocked it out of the park, absent fathers, or incredible, God-fearing fathers, what is our ultimate hope?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What are 3 things you’d recommend for someone who wants to love the husbands/fathers in their life well?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"[Being a dad] exposes who I am. God uses our children to expose our sin."

"God is using our children to make us more like him. That is really intentionally designed."

"He didn’t create perfect parents to raise perfect children. We are sinful, broken, flawed people trying to raise children."

"God is using [our roles as moms and dads] for our good and his glory."

"We, especially as dads, get to give our kids a glimpse of our Heavenly Father, the better Father."

"My role is not to be the perfect father, but to point to the perfect Father."

"If not daily or weekly, I am going to my kids to ask forgiveness from them. That is a very regular occurrence in our house."

"On a practical level, the “angry” goes away in 30 minutes."

"Our hope is in the good news that Jesus didn’t bail on us, and that he doesn’t bail on us. He continues to save us, and so our hope is that no matter if we are messing up… I get to go back to a Father who is saving me."

"[God] is always looking at me as righteous because he has transferred righteousness to me."

"Practice sharing the Gospel and Gospel applications to your kids when they’re born so you can get in the habit of saying it." 

"We have to be praying for our spouses because we cannot change their hearts. We must go to the One who can change hearts. We need to dedicate time to praying for our spouses."

"Men really like to fix things, and so if we are presented with opportunities to problem solve, we feel a level of respect... Men are longing to feel respected. If you can figure out creative ways to invite your husband to lead you, he will feel a sense of duty that is good and honorable." 

"To not pray is to silently declare that you have more control of your husband than Jesus does. It is saying you think you can handle something better than Jesus can."

"Men and boys just want to hear that they have what it takes." 

"Pray that God would give you a soft place to approach your [dad who was absent] if he’s still alive. Maybe God by his grace would give you a soft heart."

"My hope is not in my [earthly] dad. Jesus is better than whatever we are putting our hope in."

"We serve a God who is a better provider."

"Everything at some point will fail us except Jesus."

 

JERRAD'S RESOURCES

ESV Study Bible

Give him an experience specific to his love language

 

OTHER RESOURCES

Stop Behaving: A Gospel Centered Devotional for Men by Jerrad Lopes

Step Up: 10 Practical Ways To Lead Your Family Toward Jesus by Jerrad Lopes

 

JERRAD'S SIMPLE JOYS

Fishing

Sports

Coaching

 

CONNECT WITH JERRAD


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ask me anything

Hunter Beless

Ask Me Anything | Bonus Episode

In honor of Journeywomen’s first birthday my friend Sarah Pape flipped the tables on me and asked your questions in the same way we would have chatted if we were sitting over coffee. It’s casual, fun, and more than anything, an attempt at saying thank you for all of the tangible help, love, prayers, and support you’ve extended to me throughout the last year. It is genuinely my joy to get to walk this out with you guys on the weekly! Thank you for journeying alongside me! I also want to thank our sponsor for today’s episode: Lady Golden Eagles soccer camps. If you’re into soccer or you know someone who is, you’re definitely going to want to check it out. I’ll give you more details as we get into the interview, but for now, let’s move on to my conversation with Sarah Pape in which I answer a few of your questions. 

  1. How did you get the inspiration to start a podcast?  How did it all begin?

  2. How do you invite Brooks to lead? How do you encourage him to practice Spiritual Disciplines?

  3. How do you guys connect and build intimacy with each other in spite of your busy schedule?

  4. Do you have a set of family values or a mission statement for your family?

  5. How do you preach the gospel to yourself when you really just want to do something mind numbing?

  6. What advice do you have for a new believer?

  7. How do you get anything done with two little kids?

  8. What do you like to do to care for yourself other than read your Bible?

  9. What does it look like to develop lasting friendships when your lifestyle is so transient?

  10. How do you make time to study the Bible? What other books are you reading and enjoying?

  11. What are your simple joys?

  12. Who has had the greatest impact on your journey with Jesus?

 

SIMPLE JOYS

GT Kombucha

Mornings with Jesus

Summer Days


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ep. 54 on joy

Melissa Kruger

ep. 54 | Joy with Melissa B. Kruger

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast I’m chatting with Melissa Kruger about JOY! We dove right in and talked a million miles a minute about Bible study, hardship, and most of all, the joy that we have in Jesus. She said, “The object of our joy is the substance of our happiness. We like to rejoice in all these things, and we can go to God and say, ‘Thank you for my family, thank you for the fact that we have a meal to eat tonight, thank you that we have a house,” but he is the ultimate substance of our joy. The more we focus on him, the more we will be joyful!”

Melissa is definitely a kindred heart and you're going to love hearing from her! She serves as women’s ministry coordinator at Uptown Church (PCA) in Charlotte, North Carolina, and is the author of The Envy of Eve: Finding Contentment in a Covetous World (Christian Focus, 2012) and Walking with God in the Season of Motherhood (Waterbrook/Multnomah, 2015). Her husband, Mike, is the president of Reformed Theological Seminary, and they have three children. She writes at Wits End, hosted by The Gospel Coalition.

Her newest book In All Things is a study on JOY that releases tomorrow, June 5, 2018, which just so happens to also be the ONE YEAR anniversary of the Journeywomen podcast! Ya’ll, I have no words to express my surprise that we’ve actually made it this far. It is literally only by God’s grace.  Thanks so much for journeying alongside me for the past year. It’s truly been a joy. I cannot wait to share this conversation on that very topic with you all!

  1. Can you tell us about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is joy? What are some distinctions between joy/happiness/optimism?

  3. What might you see or experience when you're interacting with a joyful person? How about experiencing joy yourself?

  4. Can a non-believer experience joy? If so, how? What would that look like?

  5. How can we experience true joy? How do we pursue it? Who is the source of our joy?

  6. What does it look like to experience joy even in the midst of difficult and hardship?

  7. What steals our joy?

  8. When we recognize that we've been looking for joy in things that cannot offer it, where do we go from there?

  9. How can we, as believers, encourage one another to find our joy in the Lord?

  10. How can we create a culture of joy in our homes? Churches? Workplaces?

  11. How does joy fuel our ministry? Evangelism? Hospitality? Motherhood? Etc.

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What are 3 things you’d recommend for someone who wants to expand their joy?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Christian joy is a Spirit-filled assurance of God’s grace and goodness that produces a feeling of pleasure, satisfaction, or delight. What’s different about that from [worldly joy] is the cause of the joy. It’s really important for us as believers to understand the root and substance of joy. Christian joy is rooted in our salvation."

"The word tells me that God will work all things for good." 

"When people walk through tremendous suffering and you see the fruit of love, joy peace, patience, etc. coming from them that their circumstances cannot be producing, and they are not consumed by the fire they are going through, it makes you turn and look at them." - Joni Eareckson Tada (A Spectacle of Glory

"[Joy] is a belief that Jesus is with me, an assurance that it is all for his good."

"Salvation is the abundant spring of our joy. It is a well that doesn’t go dry." 

"No matter what is happening in my life, the fact that Jesus came to this earth, that he lived a perfect life, that he died in the most evil event ever to occur in human history... and then was resurrected on the third day. He left Heaven in perfection and came to this earth to rescue a people, that were his enemies, to be his children." 

"We were rescued in such a way, with such grace, at such grand expense." 

"This world does not work as it should work."

"There is a right place to pour out our sorrows before God. Jesus did that." 

"Present joy is rooted in a past truth and future hope." 

"Our wrong expectations of the Christian life can really affect our joy. The Christian life is described as a race, a war, and childbirth. A race is hopeful, a battle is hopeful that you will get to peace, and childbirth is one of the most hopeful, painful things. There can be hope while experiencing the reality that something is painful." 

"Comparison is a pervasive stealer of joy." 

"Believing the life that someone out there has it better than we do, can really rob our joy."

"Go to the Lord and repent. Repent and believe." 

"The object of our joy is the substance of our happiness."

"He is the ultimate substance of our joy. So the more we focus on him, the more we will be joyful."

"One of the kindest, servant-hearted things someone can do is to pray for another person."

"We can think that gossip is shared intimacy but it goes sour. You leave those “one-up” conversations feeling yucky about life."

"The fight for joy begins in our mind. From our mind and heart, the mouth will speak. What am I saying to myself throughout the day?"

"When we offer one another something better, we are attracted to it."

“We become what we behold.” - Karen Hodges

"It takes daily practices to build up joy."

 

MELISSA'S RESOURCES FOR JOY

Being in the presence of the Creator of Joy - time in the word and prayer

“20 minutes a day for a lifetime”

 

MELISSA'S SIMPLE JOYS

Back porch

Pizza

Good fiction book

 

CONNECT WITH MELISSA


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ep. 53 on celebrating God’s diverse design

Trillia Newbell

ep. 53 | Celebrating God’s Diverse Design with Trillia Newbell

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Trillia Newbell about celebrating diversity! Trillia and I talked about everything from how we can practically celebrate people of all backgrounds, to how Jesus himself loved people who were different than him. She said, “When I think of Jesus I think of a man who died for sinners, who died for those who could never repay him, and who related to those who others would shun. His example is ours. It’s what we should aim to live like and live for.” Trillia encourages us to simply love our neighbors and to seek to know them through something as simple as inviting them to share a meal around our tables. Ultimately, we discussed God’s plan to glorify himself by rescuing a people from every tribe, tongue, and nation. I know you’ll have so many takeaways from this conversation.

So you’ll know her a little better, Trillia Newbell is the author of  the kids’ book God’s Very Good Idea, as well as Enjoy: Finding the Freedom to Delight Daily in God’s Good Gifts (2016),  Fear and Faith: Finding the Peace Your Heart Craves (2015) and United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity (2014). Her writings on issues of faith, family, and diversity have been published in the Knoxville News-Sentinel, Desiring God, True Woman, Christianity Today, The Gospel Coalition, and more. She has spoken at numerous conferences, churches, women’s retreats, colleges and seminaries, including True Woman, The Gospel Coalition Women’s conference, Southeastern Theological Seminary, and more. She currently is the Director of Community Outreach for the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission for the Southern Baptist Convention.  I can’t wait to share her with you guys.

Before we go there, I want to say THANK YOU! Many of you follow Journeywomen on Instagram and if you do, you had a chance to see that my kiddos baptized my laptop last week, completely crashing my hard drive. My friends Sarah Scott, Chloe Hamaker, and Elizabeth Seifried launched a Go Fund Me and within 12 hours you raised enough money to fund an entirely new computer to keep Journeywomen running! I cannot thank you guys enough, truly. Thank you so much for helping make today’s episode possible!

 

  1. Can you tell us about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is God’s design for creation?

  3. How did he bring this to fruition?

  4. What happened when sin came into the world?

  5. What do we all need as a result of our sin?

  6. Where can we find rescue and forgiveness?

  7. How did Jesus love people who were different than him?

  8. How can we extend this kind of love to people who are different than us like Jesus did?

  9. How does doing so bring the Kingdom of God down to earth?

  10. What would it look like to celebrate God’s beautifully diverse design when we’re interacting with others?

  11. How can we communicate value and care to people of all backgrounds?

  12. What does celebrating God’s design for humanity elicit in us? What does it show the world? What is God’s ultimate purpose in his beautifully diverse design?

     

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What are 3 resources for those of us who wants to grow in their understanding of others and loving/celebrating who they are?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"God has called us to make disciples of all nations and called us to live in community with one another."

"We see God calling people to himself of every tribe, tongue, and nation."

"In Genesis 1 we see God created people, made in his image. He did not discriminate in who he created. Everyone is created with worth, and value, and dignity."

"God has been rescuing people from every tribe, tongue, and nation. Jesus died on a cross bearing the wrath we deserved, and he did not discriminate in regards to ethnicity. The Gospel is for all nations, for all people, anyone who would put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ."

"Jesus related to all people." 

"He had such a non-discriminating love for all people."

"Jesus was always laying his life down for others."

"Jesus related to those who others would shun."

"Jesus’ example is what we should aim to live like."

"A love for our neighbor allows us to enter into mourning, weeping, and rejoicing with those who are mourning, weeping, and rejoicing."

"It is a privilege that we get to lay down our lives for others."

"God says, 'that if we confess our sin he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and cleanse us of all unrighteousness.' Jesus is making us more like himself. We need to repent of where we have sinned against our brother or sister."

"Rest in Jesus. His yoke is easy and his burden is light. We need to rest in that truth."

"I don’t want to self-righteously hold people to something that I’m not going to hold myself to. I want to make sure I’m extending grace. I speak the truth in love, but from a heart that is loving."

"We don’t want to harbor bitterness. Bitterness harms you more than the other person."

"We need to ask ourselves what is hindering us from loving people who are different than us. If it’s hard, there may be sin in your life. If it’s hard because you cannot relate to them, ask the Lord to reveal what’s in your heart that is hindering you. We need to ask ourselves if we see people as the ‘Imago Dei’, made in the image of God."

"Once you get in proximity with those who you haven’t engaged with, those [fears] will crumble."

"God promises to finish the work he began."

"Listening helps us to love our neighbor as ourselves." 

"If you’re asking questions that are really intense, you might reserve that for a friend or a proper context."

We are going to mistakes in getting to know people who are different than us."

"Listening and interacting is a sweet way to celebrate differences."

"You don’t have to pretend to be colorblind because you’re not. It’s not helpful."

"Our differences aren’t negative. The reality is when we look at God’s word, our differences are not a negative and we can celebrate them."

"Be normal. Don’t relate to people as aliens. We are all people. Relate to one another as people. Introduce ourselves and see what the Lord has after that."

"Step out of your comfort zone." 

"The world is broken and divided and there is someone who can unify!"

"Any division is a way for our enemy to distract us."

"It’s all ultimately about God."

"The end goal is the glory of God."

 

TRILLIA'S RESOURCES FOR Celebrating God’s Diverse Design

Learning about US history

Reading broadly to gain different viewpoints

The Bible and seeing God’s heart for diversity

Praying

Have a friend around the table  

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

United by Trillia Newbell

God’s Very Good Idea by Trillia Newbell

 

TRILLIA'S SIMPLE JOYS

Road cycling

Anything outside with my family

Cooking

 

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ep. 52 on military life

Megan Arnold

ep. 52 | Military Life with Megan Arnold

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with my friend, Megan Arnold, a fellow military spouse who has been navigating the lifestyle for almost 19 years through 9 deployments. Megan follows her husband, Bo, as he follows Jesus in his career as an Army soldier in the special operations community. I know many of you are military spouses, but I also want to take the opportunity to welcome those of you who aren’t familiar with the lifestyle into our world in light of the upcoming Memorial Day holiday!

Megan and I talked about things we can all relate to, like the challenges we face navigating a transient lifestyle, dealing with unmet expectations, and pursuing oneness with our spouses who have very demanding schedules. Whether you are part of a military family or if you’re like I was about eight years ago and don’t know much about the military at all, I think you’ll find this conversation encourages you in your walk with Jesus.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what your experience in the military has been like?

  2. What is your great hope in the midst of such transition and real hardship?

  3. What are some of the struggles you face as a military spouse? How does the Gospel meet you in the midst of these hardships?

  4. How do you develop deep, intimate friendships in such a transient lifestyle? What motivates you to continue pursuing real friendships/community even though you know you’ll be leaving them soon? What does intimacy look like in the friendships you're cultivating, despite knowing you will only be with them a short time? How does the Gospel enable you to befriend other women whom you might not naturally be drawn to?

  5. How do you and your husband pursue oneness when you're separate in proximity? Emotionally? Physically?

  6. What are some of the unforeseen blessings of the military lifestyle? What are your favorite things about being a military spouse?

  7. What are your top priorities when you arrive at a new duty station? 

  8. What has the importance of the local church been for you as a military spouse? What are some resources you'd recommend for someone looking for a solid, Gospel-centered church?

  9. How do you navigate/balance serving in the military and serving in the local church? How does the local church enable you to love other military families?

  10. How do you go about finding a mentor when you're moving so frequently? Is it difficult to find women that you can learn from so quickly? Where do you find them? What are you looking for?

  11. How can civilians come alongside, serve, and love military families?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What are 3 resources for those of us who wants to better understand the military lifestyle?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"The only answer to all questions is Jesus. That can be really challenging to live out in the midst of transitions."  

"A lot of times it’s tempting to let circumstances rule how you respond in life."

"God always provides for our needs. He is always there and he is always working for his children. We don’t have to be burdened with undue anxiety and worry amidst life transitions."

"We can trust him because our deepest need is for God to be God. Our natural tendency is to try to be our own god. He will not turn away from anyone who seeks him. You don’t have to wonder if he will accept you and love you."

"Faith is believing what we can’t see. He proves himself over and over." 

"Hardships reveal where our heart’s are. They are testing grounds, a proving ground, for what are my idols right now."

"My suffering and hardship are ways to know him better."

"Every move we make, finding a church is the first thing we do."

"We are commanded to love your neighbor as yourself."

"Moving towards people is the life of Christ. There is never an excuse not to do that regardless of how long you will be somewhere." 

"I see how God proves through community how quickly I can make a deep friend."

"He wants us to move outside of our comfort zones because then we are truly loving as he does." 

"When you love the unlovable, you really see Christ growing in you."

"There is blessing that occurs by getting inside other people’s lives. When you understand more of someone’s life your impression of them may change with time and effort."

"Having difficulties and having God provide the person to help me in that difficulty is a blessing of the military life."

"Communication is the thing we [Megan and her husband] work the most on, both frequency and the how-to."

"I have to be willing to not expect anything from my husband in conversation."

Otherness - looking to others and away from self

"There are many times that through praying for my husband and I feel closer to him and connected to him."

"Praying is always the first thing that will alleviate the emotions of distance."

"I try not to think so much about what I’m missing out on, but look forward to what I have coming home to me eventually."

"I find the Psalms to be the most comforting things [for dealing with fear]."

"The more Scripture you can put in your head the better off you will be when moments of anxiety come, and they will come."

"Take the time to observe when you get to a new duty station. You can tell a lot about a community just by the types of churches that are in the community." 

"I get to know people by having people over for a cup of tea."

"Start looking for people to build relationships with."

"For civilians, be willing to open up your heart to military friends or family. Military spouses aren’t that different from you. It takes intention to notice what their needs are."

 

RESOURCES FOR THE MILITARY LIFE

Get to know the people in the military

Local Church

Word of God

Molly Huggins Blog

 

 

MEGAN'S SIMPLE JOYS

PG Tips Black Tea

Hot Yoga

Bullet Journaling


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ep. 51 on praying together

Megan Hill

ep. 51 | Praying Together with Megan Hill

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I’m chatting with Megan Hill about praying together. We talked about everything from the role of the Trinity in our prayer lives to why it’s important that we gather together with other believers to pray. Megan said, “When we pray with other people, these prayers are all gathered together before the throne and then God collects these prayers and then pours them out over the earth to accomplish his purposes.” I think it’s safe to say that you will definitely want to link arms with other believers to pray together however you can in the season that you’re in after listening to this episode!

So you’ll know her a little better, Megan is a pastor’s wife living in Massachusetts and an editor at The Gospel Coalition. She is the author of Praying Together: The Priority and Privilege of Prayer: In Our Homes, Communities, and Churches (Crossway/TGC). For those of you who are attending TGCW18, Megan will be presenting a workshop about the church, “Worshiper, Worker, Sister, Saint”! I can’t wait for you guys to hear from her today!

  1. What does prayer express?

  2. How do we relate to God through prayer?

  3. Does the Christian pray alone? Who is he praying with?

  4. What role does the Trinity play in our prayer lives?

  5. How did Jesus instruct God's people to pray?

  6. Where do we see God's command to pray together? What will happen when we do?

  7. What is the goal of praying together?

  8. What, or who, unites us in prayer?

  9. What would it look like for us to do as Ephesians 6 says and pray together at all times?

  10. Where are our prayers heading/going?

  11. What are we placing our faith in when we pray? What would it look like to pray in faith?

  12. Generally speaking, why don't we value corporate prayer? Why do we struggle with praying together?

  13. What are some practical tips for prioritizing corporate prayer in busy/demanding seasons?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What are 3 resources for those of us who want to grow in their practice of corporate prayer?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Prayer is one of our greatest gifts that the Lord has given us. Not only has the Lord commanded us to pray, but he welcomes our prayers."

"When we are praying, the believer is coming before the throne of God. We are bringing our requests, our desires, the things that we want, the things that we need, the things we are longing for, and we are bringing them before the Lord and he promises to hear us."

"When you’re praying you’re not even really praying by yourself because the Spirit is helping you,  and Jesus is helping you and the Father is listening to you. So we are entering into this great communication with the trinity when we pray."

"All the persons of the trinity are involved in our prayer."

"It’s so easy to think of yourself as alone when you’re praying… but it is not a lonely activity."

“It is even more sure that God listens to my prayer than that I really desire what I pray for.” - Heidelberg Catechism  

"God uses people to do his holy will so we pray so we can participate in what God is doing."

"Sometimes we have a misconception that praying with other people is a petition that we are trying to get enough signatures on. It’s not that somehow the Lord changes his mind when more people pray, but he does attach great blessing when God’s people come together."

"When we pray with other people, these prayers are all gathered together before the throne and then God collects these prayers and then pours them out over the earth to accomplish his purposes."

"What is the goal of believers getting together to pray? The glory of God. That God would be exalted, that Christ would be exalted in our midst." 

"Praying together helps us to love each other too because we are bearing each other’s burdens. It deepens our affection for one another as well."

"When we are praying together, we are all looking to Jesus who is outside of us. Each one of us is looking for what does Christ want, and each of us then is brought into unity because we all want what Christ wants. We are all trying to want what Christ wants and that is what will synchronize us." 

"So often what we are praying is what Jesus prayed, ‘not my will but yours be done.’ If Jesus himself prayed that, it’s not beneath us to pray that way either."

"The Lord’s will is perfect and he will give what’s best."

"Snatching every opportunity for prayer."

"The habit of praying with people reinforces that it is not about what we can see. There are other things going on in this world that we cannot see. We are spiritual creatures and and there is a spiritual aspect to the world." 

"Our faith is not in an outcome, our faith is in the One who works all things out to his glory." 

"I think people are uncomfortable and praying out loud can be uncomfortable. It requires more of us to pray together. It requires sacrifice, which can be a blessing. We’ve all sacrificed something to be there, so the sacrifice is part of the benefit."

"When we gather with other people to pray, our prayer would consist of everything that it would when praying personally: that we would adore God, praise God, thank him, confess our sins, and bring requests."

"It is a huge privilege that we are the gathered church of God and we are praying. We are all joining our hearts to that prayer."

 

MEGAN'S RESOURCES

The Bible

Believers who are ahead of you in life

Local Church

Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Pray With Your Eyes Open: Looking at God, Ourselves, and Our Prayers by Richard Pratt

The Valley of Vision: A Collection of Puritan Prayers & Devotions

 

OTHER RESOURCES

Praying Together: The Priority and Privilege of Prayer: In Our Homes, Communities, and Churches by Megan Hill

 

MEGAN'S SIMPLE JOYS

Baking cookies

Porch swing

Monday adventures with her husband

 

CONNECT WITH MEGAN


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ep. 50 on worship

Edith Moyana

ep. 50 | Worship with Edith Moyana

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Edith Moyana about worship. I had a really chaotic week and you’ll be able to hear that in the middle of the episode I was totally overwhelmed by God’s kindness to me as he ministered to me through Edith in the confines of my very own closet. I really pray he does the same for you as you listen to this episode wherever you are today!

So you'll know her a little better, Edith Moyana was born and raised in Birmingham, AL. She is a member of CrossPointe church where she serves with children’s ministry and on the praise team. She is married to her wonderful husband, Reuben, and is mother to two beautiful little girls, Joy and Jaida. A veterinarian by profession yet presently a full-time homeschooling mom. She currently serves as a patient advocate with Sound Choices pregnancy resource center and as a board member with Clement Arts.  I can't wait for you guys to hear from her!

  1. Can you share with the listeners a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is worship? Do you have a definition of worship?

  3. As believers, what do we worship? What (or who) is the fixation of our worship?

  4. What is our worship rooted in?

  5. What kind of worshipper does the Father seek?

  6. How do we worship God individually?

  7. How does this flesh itself out in the context of your everyday life? How might someone worship God in the context of college life? Military life? Motherhood? As a young professional?

  8. What is the purpose of gathering together to worship with other believers?

  9. What would it look like for us to do this, together, in the context of community, in a Gospel-centered way?

  10. What is the aim or goal of both individual and corporate worship?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend to someone wanting to grow in this area?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Worship is to honor or respect someone or something. As a follower of Christ, worship is a lifestyle of knowing the one true God and making him known."

"As believers we are called and commanded to worship the one true God. It’s absolutely right to worship him because he is worthy of our worship. It’s not just something we do on Sundays or once a week. Worship becomes a lifestyle of everyday choices and everyday decisions and our expression of who God is to us."

"No one or nothing is worthy of God’s worship. He alone is worthy. Anything or anyone that occupies the throne of our deepest affections and adoration, that thing becomes an idol."

"Knowing God is not about knowing facts about God."

"Knowing God is about having a relationship with God." 

"From the infancy of our salvation we are humbled. God graciously strips us of any right to boast in ourselves." 

"Humility is realizing that the very breath in your lungs is a gift from God."

"Obedience should be demonstrated vertically between us and God and horizontally between us and others."

"Without humility, without love, without obedience our worship is vain."

"We cannot know God or obey his commands apart from his Spirit."

"We strive to know God and understand God more when we get in the Word."

"The Word is our offensive weapon when we are facing trials and tribulations."

"Having a prayer life, and letting the Holy Spirit inform us in how to pray, are all a part of worshiping God."

"God’s worthiness to be worshiped is not based on my feelings."

"Followers of Christ are called to worship in the midst of suffering."

"It’s not about a feeling, it’s about him being worthy and deserving."

"When we gather together with other believers it’s a time to fellowship as one body, to edify one another, to exhort one another, to sing songs of praise together, to pray, to observe communion, to carry out discipline, and to hear the word of God preached together."

"Corporate worship isn’t just for the believer, but God uses [corporate worship] to draw unbelievers to himself."

"Worshiping together is the local church. Gathering together in a small group setting is also a good setting to get to know others and to be known."

"We remind each other of the hope we have in Christ when we get together."

"We all worship something, but if it’s not for the sake of God’s renown then it’s in vain."

"Everyday choices, our lifestyle (how we behave in front of our children, how we honor and respect our husbands, how we honor the Lord in purity as a single), whatever walk of life we’re in, it should all be to the glory of God." 

"It all goes back to the object of our worship."

"Worship is an issue of the heart."

"Knowing God and making him known. Ultimately it’s all about God’s glory. Worship begets more worship. The more we know God, the more we will want to make him known."

"We share the Gospel, the Good News, that the holy God of the universe has reconciled sinful man to himself through the shed blood of his son Jesus, the spotless lamb, who alone can satisfy the just wrath of God having extinguished the penalty of sin by his death and resurrection for all who would repent and believe he’s given the right to be called sons and daughters of the Most High. Praise God! That produces worship."

"Missions is not the ultimate goal of the Church. Worship is. Missions exists because worship doesn’t. Worship is ultimate, not missions, because God is ultimate, not man. When this age is over, and the countless millions of the redeemed fall on their faces before the throne of God, missions will be no more. It is a temporary necessity. But worship abides forever." - John Piper

"The aim of all of our worship is for the glory of this great God that we serve."

 

EDITH'S RESOURCES

God’s Word

Knowing God by J.I. Packer

Humility by Andrew Murray

Spiritual Disciplines by Donald Whitney

 

EDITH'S SIMPLE JOYS

Being loved by God

Husband

Girls

 

OTHER RESOURCES

ep. 34 | Spiritual Disciplines with Brad Evangelista


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ep. 49 on confession and conflict

PaToya Hall

ep. 49 | Confession and Conflict with PaToya Hall

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with my friend PaToya Hall about confession and conflict. We covered it all, from how the Gospel enables us to walk in confession and conflict without fear, to our own personal mistakes in confrontation. PaToya shared how God brought her from being fearful of conflict to approaching others in love because of her confidence in God. I really think you will find this episode to be a helpful tool in the relationships you're building within your local church, with family, and with friends for the glory of God. 

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. How does the Gospel enable us to walk in confession and conflict with one another without fear?

  3. Why is it dangerous to live alone in our sin? What comfort does confession offer us?

  4. What is the effect of an individual's sin on the community as a whole? And why is it important?

  5. Do you feel confession is a gift? What is the result if we make confession into a mandate or a law?

  6. What is the Biblical response to confronting a brother or sister if you see them walking in unconfessed sin, or if they're just unaware of their sin?

  7. How can we do that, practically, in a healthy way?

  8. What is the goal of confrontation/conflict?

  9. What are the potential pitfalls in confession and conflict and how do we avoid them?

  10. How can we point one another to the Gospel as we walk in confession and engage in conflict with one another for the glory of God?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in confession and conflict?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Your mistakes are not who you are."

"Christ says that we are no longer guilty that 'there is no condemnation.' (Romans 8:1) If we believe truly that Christ has taken the punishment for our sins on the cross and we believe that, then truly he has set us free from the condemnation of those sins." 

"Sin is still coming out of me, but it does not reign over me. Only the Gospel reigns over me." 

"For the sake of reconciling and being unified together I can admit and say that 'I am sorry' and I can own that and we can figure it out together." 

"My behaviors and circumstances don’t have to be attached to my identity. This conversation may have ups and downs but that doesn’t change who God says that I am." 

"Recognize that in conflict the goal is to be unified and reconciled. I want to understand how we can come together in the areas of disagreement."

"The Gospel gives us hope for unity."

"Prioritize unity and obedience [in conflict]. Is it obedient for me to engage in this conversation right now? I can’t control the circumstances, but I can honor a brother or sister in being honest about how I’m feeling. And I have to be open that I could be wrong in my viewpoint."

"God showed me that I wanted community more than I wanted my fear."

 "Confessing sin is a gift. We all have the experience of trying to keep something inside of us, but it tears us apart from the inside."

"Confession breaks through the dark places in our lives. We can be so afraid from saying things to others."

 "The opportunity to confess sin reminds us of the Gospel."

 "The hope that comes from confessing sin is that Jesus is faithful and just to forgive us of our sin."

"Scripture gives us great hope that he will purify us and forgive us."

"No sin that lives in you is more powerful than the Gospel. And sometimes the things that live in us can feel really powerful! Christ carries our burdens for us."

"If we live in the darkness of sin, then we have separated ourselves from the body of believers." 

"Sin does not produce the fruit of the Spirit, only the Spirit can produce that."

"When I live in unconfessed sin, the way that it continually manifest itself in me is I fear judgement. I assume that my friends are judging me, division happens, and I begin to judge other people. I begin to live in this works-based righteousness."

"Confession is absolutely a gift to community because even though you’re confessing this sin, they don’t have to bear the weight of your sin. It reminds us that we don’t have to earn our salvation. We get to bring light into dark places and live in freedom and abundant life."

"You remind yourself of the power of the Gospel as your confess to your brother."

 "Even works that look good on the outside are not transforming you internally on the inside, only the Spirit can do that." 

"If the fruit of the Spirit is not on display, if repentance is not on display, if transformation is not happening, and ultimately worship of God is not happening, then I think we’ve made [confession] into a law and we are not walking in the abundance of Christian life."

"Brokenness spurs brokenness in me for them. As someone comes broken over their sin, I am able to empathize with them. The Gospel response is to remind them that Jesus has not left them and they can have hope in him."

"Our sin is not okay but Christ makes us okay, not that action okay. As friends come to us broken over their sin in true confession, our response is to pray over them and remind them of the power of the Gospel in their lives." 

"As we interact with Jesus he will transform us and give us power over our sin."

 "Asking questions of people shows a desire to know someone deeper and to help that person." 

"We always need to check our own heart when calling people out on things. We want to messengers of life and grace and not messengers of condemnation."

"The ultimate goal of confession and conflict is for us to reflect Christ to the world. That we would not leave ourselves in sin and shame because if we stay in those places, what hope can we offer to the rest of the world? Ultimately it’s not about me individually but about the larger body of believers reflecting Christ in the world."

"First, be careful about who you’re confessing to. We want to be helping one another remember the Gospel."

"If you’re the one who is calling someone out, then really seek to understand that person and desire for them to really look like Jesus. Ask yourself what your goal in calling them out is. Ask yourself if all of the things you’re seeing are actually true."

"Ultimately we are doing this for God’s glory."

 

PATOYA'S RESOURCES

Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer

You Can Change by Tim Chester

Asking “If the Gospel is true, then what does that mean about this fear?”

 

PATOYA'S SIMPLE JOYS

Listening to The Chronicles of Narnia in my car

Slow Saturday mornings

Being a regular somewhere


 

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ep. 48 on community

Luke Banner

ep. 48 | Community with Luke Banner

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with my friend and pastor from right here in Clarksville, TN, Luke Banner. Luke serves as the assistant pastor in my local church. It was so fun talking with Luke about how community really is the “big C” Church. Luke shares that the Church is the body of Christ and how as members of the Body, we make up the congregation of worshipping believers, aka: the Church. Unlike secular community, Christian community isn’t just the frequency of interaction we have with someone, maintaining a shared passion, or sharing common interests. But the goal of Christian community really is… well, let me let you hear it from Luke, “The goal of Christian community is for the church to be the Church. What is the chief end of man? To glorify God and enjoy him forever. To worship together, all-pervasive. Everything should be worship.”

This conversation is the beginning of a little series on the topic of Christian community. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast however you listen so that you won’t miss upcoming episodes on confession and conflict, praying together with other believers, individual and corporate worship, and celebrating God’s beautifully diverse design. I can’t wait to share them all with you, but you know before I do, I have to tell you about our incredible sponsors for today’s episode: Apartment Life and Mysa Home Styling.

  1. Can you share with the listeners a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is Christian community? How does the Gospel enable and empower us to do life together?

  3. Why is it important? What is the goal of community?

  4. Why do Christians need one another?

  5. What are some deterrents to community?

  6. What is the effect of an individual's sin on the community as a whole? Why is that important?

  7. How can we serve one another in community? How can we bear one another's burdens?

  8. What will happen as our community becomes more genuine?

  9. Do we create community?

  10. If our future reality is together, can that begin now, on this side of heaven?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in their understanding of community?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"Christian community is the 'church' being the Church. In that, we have a statement of identity and a statement of mission. The church is the statement of identity, that we are the Body of Christ. Christ is our head and we are the Body as those who worship him as our Lord and Savior. That’s our identity, we are the church. Our mission is to be the church, to act like the church, to do the Great Commission from Matthew 28."

"Christian community is the Church. We orient ourselves in a certain way that we are the Body of Christ and orienting ourselves to the mission of the Church."

"In Christ, who we are is a statement of being. What comes after that is what we are to do. The indicative is our state of being, who we are. Out of that we live a certain way, that is the imperative."

"The Gospel message is a message of hope for the hopeless."

"The Gospel invites us to authenticity, to take our masks off, and to not perform. It’s a beautiful invitation to say 'I’m not ok' when we are not ok."

"Christian community is not an end in itself, it’s a means to an end."

"Christian community is about God. It’s about what Christ has done for us. It allows us to be free. Community is a byproduct of what God has done for us."

"As the Body we are not just needing each other, but are dependent upon each other." 

"We need each part of the Body." 

"God has created us to have mutual dependence upon each other. We are encouraged to bring our best, where we all contribute and then we can all feast together."

"Acknowledge the tension in our hearts when we are loving people that are hard to love." 

"We should expect community to be a mess because we are all sinners. If it’s not a mess, then we are probably not showing up authentically."

"We are set free from performance and are set in motion to love, and to know, and be known."

"'Peacemaking' is a picture of Jesus coming to this world. He comes to the earth marching towards the cross, to pay his life as a sacrifice for sinners… Peacemaking is often confrontational. It is an approach that is willing to speak and possibly wound in order to heal."

"'Peacekeeping' is passivity and silence and saying that things are ‘well’ when they are not well."

"Sin is corrosive, toxic, and it’s destructive. It mutilates our relationship with ourselves, with others, and with God. It creates a distance between us and God."

"When seeking to know the right time to speak to another person… ask yourself 'is it loving to stay silent?'" 

"We have to be willing to fail and be willing to be wrong [in community]."

"Even when we do community wrong, we are doing it. We are showing up, being authentic, and being real."

"The goal of Christian community is for the church to be the Church. What is the chief end of man? To glorify God and enjoy him forever. To worship together is all pervasive. Everything should be worship."

"The goal of Christian community is the glory of God and the proclamation of the Gospel in all we do."

"Don’t settle for facades." 

"We can serve the community by being an integral part of the community, and that requires each person have a willingness to know and be known."

"We are made in God’s image, which means we are not made for individualism. We are not meant to live life alone. Our very souls cry out for intimacy with God and with each other."

"In community, those around us are a mirror to us as well."

"As we become more authentic and as we believe the Gospel message more and more, it should liberate us to engage with the reality of our lives (both the brokenness and the good stuff) in a way that is bringing us closer to ourselves, to those around us, and to our Father." 

"When we [live in community] we bring the Kingdom near."

"[Community] causes us to fall in love with God, with the Gospel, and with each other."

"The mess [of community] is beautiful."

"Community has a way of dying if people aren’t engaging with it and making it continually grow. We have to be intentional about pursuing community." 

"How do we create community? Through vulnerability and trust."

"We have to have some level of trust, but there is no real trust until there is vulnerability."

"What we get here on earth is a foretaste of Heaven. A foretaste of what awaits us with Jesus and the body of Christ in Heaven." 

"When we risk in the pursuit of Christian community, and we are hurt, it really hurts."

"The hope in the midst of pain in community is the Kingdom coming near."

 

LUKE'S RESOURCES

The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you?

To Be Told by Dan Allender

Community and Growth by Jean Vanier

 

LUKE'S SIMPLE JOYS

Watching my daughter

Adventure and play

Eating and drinking things that start with “B”

 

RESOURCES FOR FINDING A LOCAL CHURCH

The Gospel Coalition Church Directory

9 Marks Church Search

Acts 29 Network
 

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ep. 47 on freedom

Ginger Ciminello

ep. 47 | Freedom with Ginger Ciminello

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast I had a chance to chat with Ginger Ciminello about freedom! Ginger and I chat about what it looks like to walk in the freedom we have in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Listen to what she said, “The Gospel is Jesus plus nothing equals salvation. When Satan wants to put on heavy burdens of the consequences of our sin or of the law and saying you have these 613 commands that you have to follow or you are not enough, Jesus instead comes and says, ‘Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, learn from me, for I am humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.’”

I confessed to Ginger that it’s a real struggle for me to walk freely, but after this conversation paired with the past two episodes we released on rest with Abigail Dodds and on fear with Matt Lantz, I am finding myself more readily embracing the rest and freedom we have in the Gospel when my fear is rightly oriented on God which leads to a rightly oriented faith.

  1. Tell us about who you are and what you do?

  2. Can you share a little of your own story and what you’ve walked in bondage to?

  3. Where do we find freedom? What brings us true freedom?

  4. How does the Gospel enable us to walk freely?

  5. Scripture says it is for freedom that Christ has set us free. What does it mean to walk in the freedom we have in Christ, though we all know that we still struggle with sin despite having professed faith in Christ?

  6. What are we walking freely for? 

  7. How do we walk freely without using our freedom to indulge in the flesh, as Paul says in Galatians? 

  8. I think a lot of people see commands in Scripture and the feel like they’re binding and burdensome instead of freeing. How does God’s instruction through His Word actually free us up?

  9. How might we know if we’re walking in freedom or in bondage? What are some markers for knowing if we are walking freely?

  10. If we determine we’re walking in bondage instead of freedom, where do we go from there?

  11. What do we have to look forward to? What is our ultimate hope? 

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in this area of their life?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"He is the God who pursued me and who came and found me."

"The first step [toward freedom] was confession - stepping from darkness to light."

"Anytime that I want to step back into that cage of believing a lie, the moment I choose to step out from hiding I find grace waiting for me, I find freedom right there. Confessing that and claiming my need for God."

"I’ve learned how to say ‘this is a lie’ and say it out loud and then ask ‘what is true?’"

"I have to be engaged in the fight on a daily basis."

"The message of salvation is freedom. Galatians 5:1 literally means ‘For freedom Christ freed you.’ God wills our freedom, constant freedom."

"Satan would love nothing more than for us to believe lies and to point us to slavery. He wants us to carry a heavy yoke."

"The Gospel is Jesus plus nothing equals salvation."

"Jesus is so gracious to us to lighten our load and to give us the Holy Spirit."

"Ask God to ‘help you walk in freedom today.’"

"Boundaries bring freedom. The more we give kids guidelines and clear expectations, the freer they are and the more joyful they are."

"If we believe God is a loving Father who desires what’s best for us then we can trust that the commands and guidelines he sets out for us are for our good."

"We are freed to help free others."

"It is enough for today for me to remember the Gospel and to love the people who are around me."

"I have to release social media a lot. I haven’t made social media easy for me."

"[Walking in freedom] has looked like adding God’s Word, accountability, and counseling but also just noticing what I need to let go of, and not holding onto the things that culture says I need to do or have. Asking ‘what is keeping me from embracing freedom that is offered to me in Christ?'"

"Satan cannot take freedom away from us but he would love to do whatever he can to keep us ineffective."

"If we are walking in the Spirit we will have fruit."

"If I’m walking more often in fear and anxiety and anger then chances are there is an area of freedom that I’ve just let go."

"Recognize if we are feeling active conviction or condemnation of sin. Step one is confession. We are to live as children of light. We confess it and bring it to the light.  

"Fight like you mean it. ‘Stand firm then.’ The stance that you have to persevere."

"I’m not alone in this. God has given me the body of believers." 

"It’s not just that [my accountability partner] listens to me and I get it off my chest, but she then turns around and she says the Gospel back to me. She is constantly calling me back to who I am and what I am called to do."

"Take every thought captive by acknowledging the lie and claiming the truth."

"We are being made new and this is not the end of the story. One day I will have a fully redeemed mind and body."

"Sin is not inevitable. Freedom is my right, and God is for me in this fight."

"He is a loving parent."

"Walking in freedom looks like a mind that is transformed from ‘me’ to ‘him.’ I have thoughts of heaven and being homeward. Walking freely is embracing what Jesus came to the cross to give me. It looks like fullness of joy."

 

GINGER'S RESOURCES

Galatians

Galatians for You by Tim Keller

Breaking Free by Beth Moore

You Can Change by Tim Chester

Counseling

 

GINGER'S SIMPLE JOYS

Date night with our cup of questions

Sunday naps

Being in the Bible early in the morning

 

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ep. 46 on fear

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ep. 46 | Fear with Matt Lantz

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I brought back one of your all-time favorite guests, Matt Lantz! We talked about fear and what happens when our fear is misplaced. I talked about my own wrestle with fear of man and per usual, Matt blew my mind, like when he said,

“I’m reminded when I am afraid of something that I am not God. I don’t command anything. And I’m mortal. I can die, I can be hurt. I think God gave us the emotion of fear because he’s the only one worthy of it.”

Matt also shares how we can help one another out as friends by reminding one another of the only One who is worthy of our fear. We fear Him because He is good, He commands things, and that He is commanding things for our good, and that He can even do that at our request.


So you’ll know him a little better, Matt is a husband, father, and pastor who lives in Fort Worth, Texas with his wife and three children. He’s a graduate of TCU and Dallas Theological Seminary and has been working in full-time ministry since 2000 preparing the way for the Lord Jesus in the lives of men and women. Matt was the founding director of a discipleship program called the Forge at Pine Cove where he spent 12 years helping young men and women learn their identity and steward it well. He has recently moved on from the Forge and is now serving as the Recruitment and Development Pastor and the Associate Pastor of the West Campus at Christ Chapel Bible Church in Fort Worth, TX.

  1. For those who didn't catch your episode on the theology of identity, can you share who you are and what you do?

  2. I recently saw an Instagram quote on a popular Christian feed that said, "Daughter, fear is a liar, -God". Is that true? It got 1,866 likes so it must be true, right?

  3. Scripture talks a lot about fearing the Lord. The verse that comes to mind is Proverbs 1 that says, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge." And yet, there are also verses like the one in 1 Peter that says, "And you are her (Sarah's) children if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening." Is there a distinction between different types of fear?

  4. Is all fear bad? Can it be neutral? Good? Do you have a definition of fear?

  5. What is the distinction between fearing man and fearing the Lord?

  6. What are some examples of unhealthy fears? How can we get to the root of them?

  7. What are some examples of healthy fears? What kind of fears should we maintain?

  8. What would it look like to acknowledge our unhealthy fears and to walk forward in freedom while fearing the Lord?

  9. How can we walk in the freedom of the Gospel, and yet work out our salvation with the kind of fear and trembling prescribed in Philippians 2:12?

  10. How do we discern when the Holy Spirit is causing us to hesitate versus knowing when we are simply giving way to fear?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend to someone wanting to grow in this area?

  2. What's one piece of advice you'd give 25-year-old Matt on his journey to glorify God?

  3. What's something you're looking forward to on your journey right now?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"[Satan] will certainly use your fears to persuade you to mistrust God. Satan’s the liar, not fear."

"Fear means fear." 

"Is fear bad? Fear isn’t a moral issue. I don’t think it’s really good or bad in that sense. However it can be misplaced. And when our fear is misplaced, that can create moral issues for us." 

"Fear is an emotional response to circumstances that we cannot control and that we perceive will do us harm." 

"That emotional response always sends us looking for a Savior, something that we believe is bigger or stronger or otherwise able to subdue or get rid of whatever it is that is causing us fear."

"The point in which the disciples were the most afraid is when the storm was calm. The disciples had a rational fear of death, except that Jesus is asleep in the same boat with them and he is the commander of the wind and the waves. When they realize that who they have in the boat with them is bigger and stronger and more powerful than the waves, they are afraid of him. Their fear was misplaced.  It was in the wind and the waves and death. But when they stand in front of a God who controls all of those circumstances, their fear is no longer misplaced, it is reoriented back to its proper object."

"Fear isn’t bad, it’s just misplaced."

"God designed us to be fearful. We are creatures."

"I’m reminded when I’m afraid of something, that I am not God. I am mortal. I can die. God gave us the emotion of fear because he’s the only one worthy of it." 

"When our fear is misplaced that can cause us to find salvation in things that don’t save."

"Who do you believe is the most powerful? Period."

"If you really believe that God is who he says he is, then you’ll believe what Psalm 118:6 says."

"My fear causes me to revere God and respect him, it also causes me to tremble before him because he can destroy me. The distinction is I am making a choice about who is worthy of my fear. I can give it to anyone or anything, but who I give it to is a statement about what I believe about who I give it to."

"God’s designed us to be fearful. The only time when our fears are unhealthy are when our fears are misplaced." 

"When I’m afraid of something other than God and I’m turning to something other than God to get rid of that fear, then I’m saying something about the salvific power of that thing in my life." 

"Show me your fears and I’ll show you your idols. But the flip of that is also true. Show me your fears and I’ll show you Jesus, the better Savior than whatever it is you’re trusting." 

"Being afraid of ourselves is just another iteration of a misplaced fear, that will lead you to a misplaced faith ultimately."

"If you’re afraid of your own ability to make decisions or self-worth or anything, then you will start to look for things outside of you to save you… So you start to cling to little things that you wouldn’t think of as idols, but they are things that are momentary, knee jerk reactions to things that you turn to when you’re scared." 

"God designed us to fear him. The fear of God is ultimately the beginning of that... We fear God because he is good and he is commanding things for our good."

"When we meet each other as both persons in need of the message of salvation, we understand each other’s fears. We don’t look down on each other. We can look at someone square in the eyes and say 'I’m afraid.'"

"We will misplace our fear. God will not condemn us for that, but he will be redirecting us from that." 

"Where we place our fear is also what we believe is the most powerful thing that will save us from that fear."

"Since fear is an issue of belief not circumstance, then if I’m afraid of something that’s not God, then it’s more an issue of repentance. Repentance means a returning. Return your fear to its proper object rather than being afraid of something the Creator created."

"It’s forgetfulness that leads me to misplaced faith." 

"Fear of God gives us freedom to live life the way he designed it to be lived."

"How do you cultivate of fear of the Lord? With others."  

"When I confess to other people that I’m afraid of something, that’s when I’m reminded that my fear is out of place."

"Cultivating a fear of the Lord first starts with others and then requires us to remember."

"Practice a disciple of remembering who God is and what we believe about his power."

"In Mark 4, Jesus is retraining their fears. What an interesting contrast that Jesus is asleep and the disciples are awake. In those moments when circumstances rage… we question God’s goodness. In the Garden of Gethsemane, the roles are reversed. Jesus is awake and the disciples are asleep. And the text says that Jesus is ‘filled with great distress and fear.’ Jesus’ fear is rightly oriented to God."

"My fear belongs to one and to one only, just like my faith does."

"When you’re afraid of something that isn’t God, generally in those moments you don’t want to move forward."

"When I remember to orient my fear to God, I can make objective decisions."

 

MATT'S RESOURCES

Find a friend who will help you remember when you’re afraid (confess your fears to a friend and let them remind you to fear God)

Find a professional counselor

Sermons on Fear

 

ADVICE FOR 25-YEAR-OLD MATT

If you’re going to work hard at something in your spiritual life, work hard at trusting God instead of controlling your circumstances.

 

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ep. 45 on rest

Abigail Dodds

ep. 45 | Rest with Abigail Dodds

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast I had the true joy of chatting with Abigail Dodds, someone I’ve admired from afar as I’ve read her articles for Desiring God and followed along with her life via Instagram.  Abigail is married to Tom and mom of five kiddos ranging from age 14 to 4. She’s a part-time writer, part-time Bible study teacher, part-time homeschool teacher, part-time baker, gardener, and knitter. But she would tell you she’s a full-time Christian, a full-time wife and mom, full-time member her church, and a full-time friend and sister in Christ. She’s also soon to be a student again, as she’s starting this fall at Bethlehem College and Seminary getting her Masters in exegesis and theology. Today we chatted about REST! Something that we, as believers, have already been given, but often fail to actually rest IN. Here’s one of my favorite quotes, “Knowing Jesus means we get to know the Father. In knowing Jesus, we know rest.” Hearing Abigail, a busy mom of FIVE kiddos, communicate the true rest we have in the Gospel encouraged me deeply, especially in this busy season with little people. 

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is rest? What is it really about?

  3. Is resting something we are called to as believers?

  4. What are we to rest in? What enables us to rest? What is our reason for resting?

  5. How do we actually rest in the Gospel?

  6. What obstacles might we have to overcome in order to really rest?

  7. What are some distinctions between actually resting and just wasting time?

  8. What are some things we might be looking to (for rest) that won’t offer us the rest we need?

  9. Can you think of any practical ways we can embrace rest when our work never seems to end?

  10. What does resting in the Gospel enable us to do?

  11. Ultimately and spiritually, rest comes from God and a lot of worldly things that promise us rest don’t actually give us that deep kind of soulful rest we experience in the Gospel. But, is there a place for Netflix and movies and books? What is the balance?

  12. What does it look like to experience the rest of Christ in the here and now? Can you describe how God has provided the “already” knowing that we’re looking forward to our ultimate rest in the “not yet” aspect of restoration? Sometimes I have a hard time grasping what rest looks like when my circumstances aren’t exactly restful.

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in the practice of rest?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"The Lord takes the things in our life that feel impossible and that are really hard and he uses that as something he wants our lives to point to him in."

"We often think rest means feeling relaxed and that’s not a bad way to define it, it’s just not a biblical way to define it."

"Knowing Jesus means we get to know the Father. In knowing Jesus, we know rest." 

"Being yoked with Jesus for our labor, means that our work is changed to rest."

"Rest is when we stop doing the work." 

"God’s rest is the culmination of the seventh day. It’s the pinnacle. It is the end. It’s what he was aiming for in one sense. We know that because he called that day of rest as holy. He associates holiness with that day of rest."

"In understanding rest, we are understanding holiness and how it’s different than work." 

"Rest is something God takes so very seriously."

 "God takes resting so seriously that he wrote it into his Law."

"One reason we have a hard time with [rest] is that we have a big problem with authority. We don’t trust authority. We just want to trust ourselves. And we don’t trust that God knows what he’s doing and that he’s good." 

"How do we really rest in Jesus and why would that be for our good? If resting means not working then we have to understand how Jesus connects to that. Is Jesus going to do my work for me? The answer is actually ‘yes.’ Not ‘yes he is going to come, but yes he did come and do our work for us."

"In the Old Testament the rhythm was 6 days of work and then a day of rest. We worked so that we could rest... When Jesus rose again to life - our rest - our salvation was secured. Before Jesus, we worked FOR rest. But now that he died and rose again, we work FROM rest."

"We start our week with rest [a Sunday], and everything we do flows out of our rest." 

"Resting in the Gospel is a miracle. It’s actually something we cannot do on our own."

"We rest in the Gospel when we’re born again."

"Once we’re born again, we rest in the Gospel by trusting Jesus and living like his words are really true." 

"If we can live like these things are true, then we can begin to rest in the Gospel by really knowing him. Once we know him, we learn that resting in the gospel means we stop trying to earn our rest."

"We don’t get to earn our birth into God’s family."

"When we find ourselves working for our rest, I think there’s only one solution, and it’s to repent." 

"If we’re working to try and earn our rest, that’s sin. We don’t contribute to what God has done. Rest and sin cannot coexist. We’ve got to turn from our sin in order to rest. Turning to sin for rest is like trying to take a nap on a treadmill." 

"We need to find God satisfying and we need to look around the world that God has put us in and be pleased with it."

"We’ve got to get to a place where we can smile, where we can enjoy what he’s given us that’s enjoyable."

"Sleep is essential, it’s necessary. It’s a very humble thing to sleep. We are counting on God to keep our bodies alive... We are laying ourselves down in his care."

"All of humanity is dependent."

"Resting in the Gospel enables us to actually rest. Rest is actually the point." 

"Rest is an end in itself. It’s isn’t just a means to an end." 

"Jesus is sitting down. He is sitting right now at God’s right hand. He sat down because his work is finished." 

Practical ways for rest: different rhythms than your everyday, vacations

"See rest as a time of set-apartness. The differentness is what makes it valuable."

 

ABIGAIL'S RESOURCES

God Rested” by Andrew Peterson

Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung

The Bible

 

ABIGAIL'S SIMPLE JOYS

Family

Baking

Changing of Seasons

 

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ep. 44 on How the Resurrection Impacts Our Everyday Lives

Kristy Hunter

ep. 44 | How the Resurrection Impacts Our Everyday Lives with Kristy Hunter

Happy Easter, ya’ll! On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Kristy Hunter about the resurrection! We talked about how the resurrection we’ll gather together to celebrate this upcoming Easter Sunday is actually something we can celebrate all the time! She said, “At our church, we talk about how we celebrate Easter every week. We don’t celebrate the risen Christ just on Easter. He’s seated at the right hand of God. He’s there. It’s not just once. He died and rose once. But because he lives we celebrate every week and every day.”

 

Our entire conversation is centered around the reality that Christ’s life, death and resurrection change every area of our lives as believers every single day! So you’ll know her a little better, Kristy was a friend of a mentor of mine back when I was in college! She’s also been married to Justin for almost 16 years and she’s the mama of two boys, Stevens and Stiles. They make their home in Northwest Arkansas--Woo Pig! She loves the life God has given her even though it's the life she never dreamt she'd be living. I can’t wait to share her passion for the Gospel with you guys today!

 

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. The resurrection of Jesus is foundational to the Christian faith, and yet, we so often only give it real thought around the Easter season. But the resurrection of Jesus is so important that Paul writes, “If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile and you are still in your sins” (1 Corinthians 15:17). And later he says, “If in Christ we have hope in this life only, we are of all people most to be pitied” (19). In light of what Paul teaches, I think it's safe to say that the resurrection is vital. But before we go there, I think we need to lay the foundation for why we needed Christ to come. Can you help to lay a foundation for why we desperately need the life, death, and resurrection of Christ?

  3. What does this mean for us? What are the effects of the resurrection?

  4. This whole concept sounds crazy. How do we know this actually happened?

  5. Why is the resurrection an essential element of the Gospel?

  6. As Christ-followers, what longings are filled by the resurrection?

  7. How does the reality of the resurrection flesh itself out in our everyday lives?

  8. What would it look like to live in light of the resurrection as a mother? As a college student? As a (business) professional?

  9. How can we do a better job of preaching the resurrection to ourselves? To others?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in their understanding of the resurrection?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"You can’t separate the resurrection from the life and the death of Christ."

"This guy who proclaimed to be God. If [Jesus] didn’t raise from the dead he’s just another little 'g' god that died. Like every other god. But he’s not. He rose. He’s alive. And he rose bodily. And he’s seated at the right hand of God."

"I’m a sinner saved by grace by faith in the person and work of the Lord Jesus Christ."

"He’s sovereign over every detail."

"Why did Christ need to come? He needed to come because we are needy people and we cannot save ourselves."

"God promises in Genesis 3:15 that he will bring a redeemer."

"He died a death he didn’t deserve to die. He could have gotten off that cross at any point, but he didn’t. And he didn’t because he loves us. He endured the wrath of God that we justly deserve. And then He didn’t stay dead. And he didn’t stay dead because this has been the plan from all of time, that he would rise from the dead, because God was pleased, his sacrifice, his substitution on our behalf, was sufficient."

"[The Israelites] wanted a ruling king to relieve them of their circumstances. And they got a suffering servant who addressed their most vital need in being rescued from their sin."

"His sacrifice was final and sufficient for all of sin."

"Every word is this book is true."

"We handle God’s word carefully and reverently."

"How do you prove what’s true? Evidence."

"We celebrate Easter every week."

"We have the hope of Heaven! We are free from the penalty of sin, but one day we will be free from the presence of sin."

"This brokenness we live in will be gone. He will have made all things new."

"The power of the resurrection causes us to have the same power that raised Jesus from the dead, in the person of the Holy Spirit, by faith in the life, death, and resurrection of Christ, he has given us a helper. Because of that we have conviction of sin. Without the Holy Spirit we have no conviction of sin. We are able to repent of it."

"We need to be reminded of our sinfulness and Christ’s righteousness every day."

"We testify to the one we know."

"Suffering teaches us to trust him."

"We are at the end of ourselves, all we have to cling to is Jesus."

"When we understand the grace and the suffering he has lavished on us and experienced on our behalf, then we are compelled to give that grace to others that don’t deserve it either."

"When we believe the Gospel, then by his grace we can move toward others and extend grace."

"God, from before the foundation of the world, has prepared good works in advance for us to walk in and he has callings… Sometimes our callings aren’t things we want to do."

"Live according to your calling. This is where God has you."

"Because God is good and he knows what we need, [what is right in front of me] is God’s best for me right now." 

"What my children need, more than for me to be perfect, is their Savior."

"He has lived the perfect life and we need to be reminded that we cannot add anything to the work of Christ, to the Gospel. We couldn’t add to it before salvation or after salvation. We have to rest in the one that did it perfectly for us."

"Jesus has done it all for me through his life, death, and resurrection." 

"I have been declared not-guilty from the record of another."

"God’s goal is to root 'us' out of us in sanctification."

"Agree with God in what he calls sin, and then bring about reconciliation."

"Praise God that my ability to be a mom does not rest on being perfect because I'm not perfect, but there is one who is perfect and that is Jesus."

 

kristy'S RESOURCES

Remember: God’s growth in our lives does not depend on us

Find a church that preaches the Gospel every week

My ABC Bible Verses: Hiding God's Word in Little Hearts by Susan Hunt

Give Them Grace by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick

Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp

 

Additional RESOURCES

Historical Evidence for the Resurrection by Desiring God

 

kristy's SIMPLE JOYS

Justin

Stevens

Stiles

 

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ep. 43 on prayer

Valerie Woerner

ep. 43 | Prayer with Valerie Woerner

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Valerie Woerner of Val Marie Paper Company. We talked about everything from the purpose of prayer to how it works in conjunction with the other spiritual disciples. I confessed that prayer is one of the most humbling aspects of my walk with the Lord, and ya’ll, our conversation got me excited! I walked away encouraged to take advantage of the real privilege we have to grow in intimacy with God through prayer. Val said, “Jesus had to die on the cross so that we could be in communication with God. Without the cross, sin would separate us from God. There is no other way to have communication with God apart from the cross.” I am so thankful that Christ came so that we can be in true fellowship with God by the power of the Holy Spirit. What a gift to get to converse with him because of what Christ has done for us! 

So you’ll know her a little better, Valerie does life every day with her husband, Tyler, who is the owner of Pixelbrush Studios by day and a gourmet chef by night. She is momma to Vivi Mae and Vana. Her best friend was sort of built in but she wouldn’t trade her for any other, her twin sister Natalie! They live in Woerner Bungalow and are passionate about minimalistic living and finding margin in this busy-loving world. They live in Lafayette, Louisiana (also known as Cajun Country). She loves her life and where God has taken her, but He is far from done with her. Valerie doesn’t pretend to have it all figured out, but she’s happy to share her journey with us all! Her recent book, The Finishing School, is her journey and what she’d share with us if we were sitting on her porch drinking iced tea. I’m so excited for ya’ll to hear from her today!

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is prayer? What is the purpose of it?

  3. Why is prayer an essential element in our walk with the Lord?

  4. How does the Gospel enable and empower our communication with God?

  5. Why do we pray? What's the aim/goal of our prayers?

  6. How can we patiently wait and faithfully continue to pray when we don't feel like we have an answer?

  7. How does prayer affect our spiritual growth?

  8. How does prayer work in conjunction with the other Spiritual Disciplines (like Bible intake, meditation, Scripture memorization, fasting, etc)?

  9. Does praying come naturally to you, or is it something you've had to cultivate?

  10. How can we cultivate a love for prayer when it feels like more of a duty than a delight?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend to those of us who desire to grow in prayer?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“We do need tools [to help us pray] and God is glad when we recognize our weakness and use the tools we have around us.”

“Prayer is how we communicate with the Lord.”

“Prayer is a conversation.”

“If we want to know God and have a relationship with him, we have to be talking to him. It will change our life here on earth.”

“We can forget the opportunity we have here on earth to know him, even though we aren’t in his presence yet.”

“Jesus had to die on the cross so that we could be in communication with God. Without the cross, sin would separate us from God. There is no other way to have communication with God apart from the cross.”

“Remember how easy it is to have a communication with God throughout the day." 

“There is something so different when we can pray the words that are in the Bible.”

“I need to focus my heart on truth before I start talking [to God].”

“God will not do something outside of his character.”  

“Realize the beauty of persistence [in prayer].”

“Faithfully praying over and over shows how much we trust God.”

“I pray a lot for little victories… Make sure your eyes are open. He might be doing stuff that would energize us to keep praying, we just have to look for it.”

“Prayer helps us to live a more surrendered life.”

“God has the full picture, and I have a very small picture.” 

“I have to trust that the Lord is bigger than me. The more I focus on him and not on myself, I can come to grips with that.”

“You have to know the Word in order to pray the will of God, to align our hearts with his, and to stay focused on him when our mind wants to wander off.”

“If you’re giving up something [in this season of Lent], hopefully it is not just to give up something but to be filled with the Lord.”

“Whenever you persist in prayer, you will develop a love for prayer.  

“You’re not going to develop a love for prayer without doing it.” 

“Prayer is a gift that God is offering you.”

 “Prayer is a privilege.”

 

val'S RESOURCES

Praying out loud in different tempos (loud and powerful, or quiet and restful)

The Complete Works of E. M. Bounds on Prayer: Experience the Wonders of God through Prayer by E. M. Bounds

Too Busy Not to Pray by Bill Hybels

The Power of a Praying Woman by Stormie Omartian

The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

The Power of a Praying Mom by Stormie Omartian

Put prayer alerts in your calendar on your phone

 

val's SIMPLE JOYS

Walking barefoot around her neighborhood

Dark chocolate with toffee

Screened in porch

 

OTHER RESOURCES MENTIONED

Val Marie Paper Prayer Journals

66 Love Letters: A Conversation with God That Invites You into His Story by Larry Crabb

The One Year Book of Discovering Jesus in the Old Testament by Nancy Guthrie

ep. 23 | The Big Story of the Bible with Caroline Cobb

 

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ep. 42 on Sharing Life and the Gospel

Cierra Bragan

ep. 42 | Sharing Life and the Gospel with Cierra Bragan

On this episode of the Journeywomen podcast I chatted with my real-life friend Cierra Bragan about sharing life and the Gospel both locally and cross-culturally. We talked about everything from feeling the nervous jitters before we share our faith, to fighting off feelings of inadequacy and resting in who we know Christ to be and what he is capable of. Throughout the entire interview Cierra beautifully articulates the Gospel and encourages us to rest IN the Gospel at all times. She said, “What he requires he supplies, and he’s done that in Jesus. That’s just beautiful. It’s not Jesus plus, or Jesus in addition to my good works, or Jesus in addition to my Sunday School attendance. It is Christ alone.” 

Cierra is passionate about leading and developing women to use their unique gifts to glorify God (1 Peter 4:10). God has given her opportunities to share life and the gospel in various avenues of vocational ministry including: discipling college students, guiding tours to Israel, leading an international school, and serving overseas in Asia, Africa, Europe, The Middle East and Latin America. Her latest adventure is as wife to her high school sweetheart, John David, and Mama to their 1 year old baby girl, Selah. Cierra resides in Birmingham, AL where she enjoys all things Southern: sweet tea, a good porch swing and SEC football!  

If you find our conversation helpful, please head over to iTunes and leave us a rating and review! It helps get Journeywomen into the hands of other women on their journeys to glorify God! To continue chatting with us throughout the week, find us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter! Thanks so much for allowing us to journey alongside you! We can’t wait to see you here, next Monday.

  1. Tell us a little about who you are, what you do, and your experience with sharing the Gospel both cross culturally and locally.

  2. Where do we see the call to share life and the Gospel in the Bible?

  3. How did followers of Jesus in the early church walk in obedience to this command?

  4. What must we first know and do in order to walk in obedience to Christ’s command to go and make disciples of all nations, no matter where we are in the world?

  5. You’ve spent some time living and working overseas. Does sharing life and the Gospel look different based on where you’re at and what culture you’re in? How does it look the same?

  6. Why is it important that we welcome others into our lives with the hope of sharing Jesus with them regardless of where we are in the world?

  7. How do you rectify your idea of "mission" and God's idea of “mission"? What do you do when sharing life and the Gospel looks different than you’d dreamed or than you desire?

  8. Let’s get practical here. What might this look like for a single gal? How about a mother of small children? A single, businesswoman who works 40 hours a week? What about someone who doesn’t really have a rhythm yet because they’re in a season of transition?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend to those of us who desire to grow in this area?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“From the very beginning, God made man to have fellowship with him and to be fruitful and multiply. In their sinless state, he told them, be fruitful and multiply - make more people who will follow me and walk with me.”  

"God is passionate about wanting to have fellowship with his creation.”

"God’s always been about sharing his good news."

"The ministry of Jesus was to come and seek and save the lost. Seeking takes work and effort.  

"Jesus tells us to 'go therefore'... so while you are going to the grocery store, make disciples, teaching them to obey."

"At the end, every tongue will confess that he is Lord." 

"The Gospel is the glorious good news that God has loved us enough to send his Son to reconcile man with God so that we can have a relationship with him. He’s done that through the cross."

“Good news is not good news unless there is bad news. We are born not wanting God, not desiring God, actually his enemy. Scripture says, ‘no one seeks God, no not one.’ But He has sought us. He has come after us.  He has done that through Jesus, who lived the life we could never live, died the death that we deserve, in order to pay the price. Because God is holy, and if God is holy then he can’t associate with sin. Scripture says he cannot even look on it. And so we know and trust that God would bring a mediator. God being just and the Justifier, in his goodness and kindness, has provided a way.”  

“How kind of the Lord that what he requires, he supplies, and he’s done that through Jesus. And that’s just beautiful. It’s not Jesus plus, or Jesus in addition to my good works, or Jesus in addition to my Sunday school attendance. It is Christ alone!”  

“Faith in him alone is Good News.” 

“The common themes of [following Jesus in the early church] is that people were with Jesus. That made them bold, and they chose to be faithful. They sought the Lord to help them be faithful.” 

“Peter encountered Jesus. And the people that encountered Jesus couldn’t help but speak of what they had seen and heard. It changed them.” 

“Pray that God would give you the guts to be faithful.”

 “What do people say about my life? Do they recognize that I’ve been with Jesus? Or do they recognize that I’ve been with the culture or consumed with myself?”

“If we are with Jesus, and we fight for that time to spend with him, it’s going to make us bold. We won’t be able to help but speak of what we’ve seen and heard.”  

“My boldness is not rooted in my knowledge. My boldness is rooted in the conviction of who I know Christ to be, what I know he is capable of.”

“The Gospel is for everyday, and God’s grace covers my lack of sharing my faith, and it covers my self-righteous attempt of sharing the Gospel perfectly.”

“We have to know that we are totally dispensable, but how kind that he has chosen to allow us to be part of [his mission].”

“God is faithful to his mission."

“God is always working. The power is in the message, not the messenger.”

“Getting on a plane doesn’t make you a soul-winner.”

“The message is the same [regardless of culture].”

 “Spend time and foster relationships.” 

“Pray and ask the Spirit to guide us to know what it looks like to [share the Gospel] in this context or this relationship. The message has to be the Gospel.”

“People aren’t as scary as we think in our head they’re going to be.”

Five threads of the Gospel from David Platt Threads Series:

  1. Sinfulness of Man

  2. Character of God

  3. Sufficiency of Christ

  4. Necessity of Faith

  5. Urgency of Eternity

“What does it mean for Christ to be sufficient? Because he lived this perfect life that we couldn't, he bridged the gap, he paid the ransom.”

“It’s not about our good deeds outweighing our bad deeds. We are completely insufficient. Christ is sufficient. So faith in Him is necessary, and it is the only means by which we can have that relationship restored with God.

“It’s one thing to share the Gospel, but urging and imploring people to be reconciled to God.”

“God in his perfect time and through his Spirit is the one who does the work [of salvation]."

“You can’t make decisions based on how you feel, you have to stand on what you know to be true.”

“Discipleship is our call as Christians.” 

“As we grow in our understanding of who God is, we can’t help but be excited about that and share that!”

“The Gospel is not just a message for people who don’t know Christ. It’s a message we need every day.”

“Faith is going to come by hearing. And God has given us this truth to share!”

“We create expectations about everything, even ministry. We want to be fruitful.”

“Laying down our expectations of what we think things should look like, and surrendering to the season.”

"God is generous and faithful to give us seasons. Surrender to what God is giving you, walking with Jesus where he is the treasure and our identity is in him."

“God has given me a sphere of influence that others can’t reach.” 

 If you’re single: Pray. Give. Go.”

“When God brings someone to your mind, pray for them.”

“If you’re in a season of transition, remember that all of life is exile. We’re not yet home.” 

“Seek the peace (shalom, wholeness, fullness) of where God has put you in exile.”

“God has equipped us for what he’s called us to.”

 

CIERRA'S RESOURCES

Missionary Biographies

Through Gates of Splendor by Elisabeth Elliot

Journals of Jim Elliot by Jim Elliot

Shadow of the Almighty: The Life and Testament of Jim Elliot by Elisabeth Elliot

To the Golden Shore: The Life of Adoniram Judson by Courtney Anderson

John Hyde: Apostle of Prayer by Francis McGaw

Let the Nations Be Glad by John Piper

Cross-Cultural Servanthood: Serving the World in Christlike Humility by Duane Elmer

The Valley of Vision (A Collection of Puritan Prayers and Devotions)

 

CIERRA'S SIMPLE JOYS

Warm days to be outside

Bubble bath

Chick-fil-a vanilla iced coffee

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Evangelism Explosion by D. James Kennedy

Romans Road

David Platt - Threads

Operation World: The Definitive Prayer Guide to Every Nation

Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung

 

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ep. 41 on relational intimacy

Stephanie Reynolds

ep. 41 | Relational Intimacy with Stephanie Reynolds

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Stephanie Reynolds about relational intimacy, or intimacy within the context of all of our relationships. Stephanie has been married almost 40 years! She and her husband, Rick, work with couples who are recovering from infidelity through the ministry of Affair Recovery. This conversation with Stephanie wraps up our series on relationships that we’ve had going on for the past four weeks. Through conversations with guests about intimacy with God, singleness, dating, and marriage,  we’ve learned that being known involves risk, but we can take risks in knowing and being known by others because of Christ! Through faith in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus, we can experience intimacy with the Father. That intimacy with God fully satisfies us and enables us to experience intimacy with others, whether it be through marriage or through Christian community, even though we will inevitably experience pain that comes from broken people knowing and loving broken people. As we walk in intimate relationships with others, we are able to forgive one another and experience reconciliation because of the Good News of Jesus Christ! It is only in Christ that we can experience true intimacy with God and others, despite ourselves. God has really used this whole series to stir my affection for Jesus and I hope He uses it to do the same in your hearts too.

  1. Tell us a little about who you are and what you do.

  2. What is intimacy?

  3. What are we modeling/pointing towards when we experience intimacy?

  4. Because of the fall in Genesis 3, our intimacy with God and man has been distorted. What enables us to walk in intimate relationships despite the brokenness of sin?

  5. How have you seen the Gospel transform broken relationships?

  6. How does the Gospel change the way we view relationships?

  7. What are required elements for experiencing intimacy?

  8. Intimacy requires vulnerability. How does the Gospel free us up to walk confidently in being known without fear?

  9. We all desire that Romans 12:15 kind of community that rejoices when we rejoice and grieves when we grieve, but what are some first steps we can take to begin living that out in our lives?

  10. When a community is living like we've been talking about, how does that fulfill what Christ has called us to on this earth?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend to someone pursuing intimate relationships?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“I think intimacy is a story that is written by two people who have a mutually committed relationship that involves trust and transparency. It’s a safe place where we’re comfortable being ourselves, we don’t have to pretend or wear masks. We accept each other, warts and all, and want the best for each other. There’s no manipulation.”

“Emotional intimacy is a forever learning experience.”  

“When Rick forgives and accepts me it helps me learn how to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance. In that moment he’s modeling God to me.”

“You can experience the forgiveness of God through your brothers and sisters in Christ when you walk in confession with one another. It’s such a tangible experience of God’s grace in your life when we do that in the context of community.”  

“In the context of dating especially, if you share too much too soon it’s not safe...there has to be a strong level of discernment, and if you don’t have it, ask your brothers and sisters to pray that over you.”

“We (the church) need to offer hope to broken relationships.”

“We’re not called ‘sinners’ in the New Testament, we’re called ‘saints’, so we need to walk in that sainthood, which does not include being boastful but includes humility.”

“The gospel has taught and reminded me to take my eyes off of myself, that my relationship with someone else is not all about me.”

“I want to view my relationships with someone through the lens of the gospel. In that, to conduct myself 'in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ' (Philippians 1:27). Philippians 2:3 says don’t be selfish, don’t try to impress others, be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. That’s how the gospel has taught me to approach my relationships.”

“I’m learning I can’t control the outcomes in a way that necessarily makes me happy, but I can only do what God has called me to do in the context of that relationship. If what I have to say is rejected, I can’t control that outcome.”

“We’ve heard of the illustration of the triangle where each of us is at the bottom, and the closer we draw to one another, the closer we become with God.”

“Am I mirroring Jesus in my relationships?”  

“‘Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say 'This is me, and I'm interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more important, all that I am not.' I thought this was a beautiful quote... it’s from Ashton Kutcher!” 

“We harden our hearts in our relationships because we feel like that wall gives us safety. God calls us to a place of having a soft heart, of being willing to be hurt, because that’s humility. Vulnerability and humility go hand in hand.” 

“Walking in vulnerability does set you up for suffering, but suffering brings you closer to Jesus.”

“Vulnerability is hard and scary but God loves us in that vulnerability. His knowing what’s best for us may lead us to suffering, but at the same time that suffering will lead us to a place of reward, a place we’d never be if we hadn’t entered into that suffering.”

“Suffering gives us a platform to speak from.”  

“Intimacy starts with your family. It’s the people we love the most we tend to overlook the most.”

“Learn to be compassionate with the people we come into contact with...rejoicing and grieving with them...connecting with them on that level.” 

“God has called us to serve. In Ephesians 2:10 it says ‘For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.’ Many times the service that God brings into your life or brings you to is a direct result of the suffering you’ve had.”

“When we’re living like Jesus is talking about, grieving with those who grieve and celebrating with those who celebrate, then we’re going to look for places to serve in our community. We’ll rejoice in the suffering we may have gone through because it gives us a ministry, produces endurance and character, and it gives us hope, which is the best of all because hope doesn’t disappoint us.”

 

STEPHANIE'S RESOURCES

Visit a therapist

Find a marriage enrichment program

Find a support group

Dance in the Rain website / The Scars that Have Shaped Me by Vaneetha Rendall Risner

 

STEPHANIE'S SIMPLE JOYS

God’s Word

My husband

Books

 

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ep. 40 on marriage

Carla Weathersbee

ep. 40 | Marriage with Carla Weathersbee

On this episode of the Journeywomen podcast I had the privilege of chatting with Carla Weathersbee, a family friend and expert on marriage. We talked about everything from the purpose of marriage and how marriage points us to the Gospel to fighting for oneness within our unique marriages. Carla and her husband Byron founded Legacy Family Ministries to pass Biblical principles from one generation to another through marriage preparation classes and Family Camps. Carla serves as Executive Director of Summers Mill Retreat and Conference Center.  She leads the women’s ministry in their church, teaches a weekly Bible study, and disciples young women. Together, the Weathersbees have written and developed various marriage prep resources over the past 20 years while working directly with pre-engaged and engaged couples. All of that to say, Carla’s got a lot to say about marriage and I cannot wait for ya’ll to get to hear from her! 

  1. Call you tell us a little about your marriage and the ministry God has given you and Byron? 
  2. What’s the purpose of marriage? How does marriage point us to the Gospel?

  3. What are some common misperceptions or beliefs about marriage?

  4. Where can we go to get a right perspective on marriage and what it should look like?

  5. What would you say are some foundational pillars for marriage?

  6. Will the way this fleshes itself out look differently within the context of each marriage relationship?

  7. How do you and Byron protect and fight for oneness in your marriage? Has that always been easy for you guys? Can we talk about submission? What are we called to as wives?

  8. What are some seasons of marriage that might be particularly challenging? How do you navigate particularly difficult seasons of marriage? What have you found helpful for yourself and for the couples you’re counseling?

  9. If you had to pick one, what is the absolute best thing we can do for our marriages? What’s the best thing we can do to develop ourselves as a spouse/for our spouse?

  10. Can you speak to the woman who feels discouraged in her marriage right now? What encouragement do you have for her? What encouragement do you have for all of us when things get difficult?

  11. What is the joy and delight of fighting for our marriages? What is the aim/goal of doing so?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend regarding marriage?

  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?

  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“[Elizabeth Elliot] said something that really transformed me…‘Trials and pain and difficulty are God’s chariots waiting to take us to heavenly places.’”

“You can see in Genesis 2, whenever God created marriage, Adam was in the garden and sin hadn’t entered the world and God looks at Adam and all of creation and says, ‘This is good’, but He looks at Adam and says ‘This is not good’. What He was referring to was Adam’s aloneness. So, he didn’t give Adam another job or more animals, He created a woman and brought her to Adam and that’s where He created the first marriage to care for man’s aloneness.”  

“I think one of God’s purposes of marriage is to help us have someone to journey through life with, that we can build a godly legacy with, someone that we can be an example of how Christ loves the Church.” 

“We can see another purpose of marriage in Ephesians (5:31) where Paul tells them for this reason ‘a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’. He goes on to say, ‘This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.’ (5:32)  

“Our marriages are about a much bigger picture than just our own personal happiness, and that transcends the whole idea of marriage to a much more sacred, deeper, joyful calling.”

“One of the misperceptions is that if I get married then all of my problems will go away, my life will be so much easier, I’ll be more complete, I’ll have everything I want and I’m not good unless I’m married. Marriage was never meant to be something that completes us.”  

“Marriage, like no other relationship, exposes our hearts and demands our growth.”

“I like what Tim Keller said, ‘Marriage is the Mack truck driving through your life revealing your flaws and humbling your reactions.’”

“We give an illustration called ‘true north’. When you set off on a journey you have a destination you want to reach...often times true north is a fixed position, where maps are set. If you’re flying an airplane you always want to make adjustments from what true north says, which is the map, to what magnetic north says, which is the compass. They always are adjusting their compass back to true north. Magnetic north is about 1500 miles away from true north, so you’re always making those adjustments back to true north. So, I think in our culture there are so many voices screaming at us that feel like magnetic north. The Bible says ‘there’s a way that seems right to man but in the end it leads to death’ (Proverbs 14:12).”

“When we constantly make adjustments to true north, it’s getting our perspective from the Bible. God gave us His Word as an absolute and it never changes, it’s an anchor for us, so we’re constantly asking God to give us eyes of faith to trust what You say and to ‘lean not on our own understanding’ (Proverbs 3:5) here in our financial decisions, to give us the grace to make wise decisions and not get caught up in the crazy pace of life that a lot of couples try to do and it robs them of the intimacy with each other and with their kids.”  

“Proverbs 24:3-4 and Proverbs 2:6... remember these rare and beautiful treasures are not found apart from having a fear of God--that you treasure and value what God says more than you treasure and value what your parents handed to you, what your best friends are doing, what the culture says they’re doing, what seems right to you... you’re fighting against what you can see with your tangible eyes and you’re trusting your eyes of faith.”

“Matthew 6:33... A lot of us go about seeking the financial security or approval of man, we try to build our home on shaky foundations that God says if you just seek Me first, if you’ll align yourself with My kingdom and My righteousness, then like C.S. Lewis said, ‘When first things are put first, second things are not suppressed but increased.’ (Letters of C.S. Lewis)”

“Another foundational pillar to marriage are these three statements: I am sorry, I was wrong, Will you forgive me?... It’s hard for us to offer that unless we’ve first received that ourselves.”

“You have to really come to say that you’re not going to compare yourself to other people or your husband to other husbands, comparison is the thief of joy. If we’re constantly looking at other people to see how they’re doing it instead of having joy in where God has us and security in knowing that this is our journey and our marriage, knowing it’s going to look differently than others.”

“Expectation breeds contempt and disappoint, unrealistic expectations especially.” 

“If we’re expecting something from our spouse and they don’t know it, that’s not fair to them. The bible characterizes our thinking sometimes, apart from Christ, as futile. In Ephesians Paul calls it futile thinking, deceitful desires, and darkened understanding (Eph 4:17-18). Those things can derail us so much. Ask the Lord where your darkened understanding is... isn’t it easy to ruminate over and over these things instead of focusing your mind on what is good and right.”

“Replace indictment with curiosity... saying ‘I wonder what’s going on in his life that’s causing him to feel this way, how can I minister to him?’”

“Oneness does not equal sameness.”

“Sometimes those things that attract us to each other in the beginning become irritants later, and we have to not just accommodate them but live with them and be one with them in those differences, but learning to appreciate those differences is so important and letting the other person be who they fully are.”  

“As wives I don’t think we’re called to be doormats or to check our brains at the door and let our husbands call all the shots, we’re partners in this together. If you look at Ephesians 5:21 says we’re to submit to one another out of love for Christ, so there’s this supernatural, mutual learning to hear one another and supporting one another. But wives are told to submit to the headship of our husbands, and that’s a hard thing because we want to be in control. It’s releasing that need to control every single part and that attitude of submission begins in entrusting yourself to God deeply.”

“Don’t be afraid to go to counseling... it’s so wise to sit down with someone that is trained and can ask the right questions to help lead you to uncover things. We never realize how much the homes we grew up in influence us.”

“Remember there are three people in your marriage. Jesus is there. He’s your Comforter, He’s your strength that helps you overcome the darkness that threatens you to just want to shut down.”

“Your power to persevere, as Gary Thomas would say, depends on what kingdom you’re living for, if you’re living for the kingdom of self or the kingdom of God. You’ll have more power to persevere if you’re doing it to please God and say I’m trusting You in this and I’m doing this because You did it for me.”

“Develop a strong spiritual core where your confidence, security, and identity rest not on your husband or your kids, but it rests on the truth of God’s Word and who He says you are, because weak spouses usually forfeit their influence.”

“Get away together often.”

“To all the young moms out there... it’s so easy to put your husband on the back burner because physically the amount of energy it takes to raise these young children takes it all out of you... but if you can do everything you can to make room for little moments that just communicate to him ‘I love you, I am here for you’ and not become a child-centered family. God’s plan when that baby was born into your family is for that baby to one day grow up and leave you, but God’s plan for marriage is for you to grow closer and closer until death do you part. The best gift you can give your children is a strong, healthy marriage.”

“Know that you have powerful influence over your husband. There’s a difference between trying to change them and trying to influence them. Trying to change them will only diminish the intimacy in your marriage, but to really influence them is knowing that you have one source who will never leave you or forsake you or walk out on you. He will be there for you to give you the strength and courage and hope you need. God is with you in the battle.”

 “Your ultimate sense of wellbeing and joy can be found in a place other than your marriage, there is hope in that.”

“‘Worship preserves the heart.’ (Gary Thomas) Our hearts can become so hardened, bitter, and hurt that we wall ourselves off from our husbands... but if we will keep our eyes on Him and worship Him (which doesn’t just mean go to a Sunday morning service) but it means putting yourself under the faucet where you can receive the deep abundant provision that He has for you.”

 

CARLA'S RESOURCES

What’s It Like to Be Married to Me? by Linda Dillow 

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

E.V. Hill preaching his wife’s funeral

 

carla’S SIMPLE JOYS

Having people in my home

Golf cart rides / being in nature 

Kombucha and Brookside Chocolate

 

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ep. 39 on dating

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ep. 39 | Dating  with Randi Beth Burton

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Randi Beth Burton about all things dating. Taking me out of my comfort zone! Randi Beth schooled this old married lady on the newest dating fads and I learned a lot! But more importantly, we sought to look at the awkward experience of dating through the lens of the Gospel. We didn’t hit a lot of practicals, because we figured ya’ll have already been inundated with that, and we admittedly don’t have many tips there anyway. But, we can offer you the refreshing truth of the Gospel that is your hope as you navigate all of life, including dating. Listen to what Randi Beth said,

“It’s so much better for me to look at the situation where God has me and be content in that and love that because He is a good God and He has me there for a purpose. And that purpose is is knowing Him and experiencing intimacy with Him.”

Randi Beth is 32, single with 2 awesome roommates and a dog, and she lives in New Braunfels, TX. Randi Beth does Marketing for T Bar M Camps and Retreats. She loves seeing the way God uses camp to impact the lives of the campers who attend, the counselors who serve them all summer, and their families. She has a small group of high school girls that she leads and does life with, which is one of her great blessings in this season of life.

The Gospel meets us wherever we’re at, regardless of our life season. This conversation is actually the third of five episodes we’re putting out on the topic of relationships. So, if you’re new, be sure to hop back to last week’s episode on singleness with Becca Harris and subscribe to the podcast to catch next week’s episode on marriage!

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are, what you do, and what your life looks like?

  2. Dating can be such an uncertain, awkward thing. While it’s something that Scripture certainly helps us navigate, there aren’t explicit Scriptures that pertain to this cultural transition from singleness into marriage. How can we, as Christian women, firmly establish ourselves in the Gospel as we navigate a situation as uncertain as dating relationships?

  3. I remember insecurities coming up in my dating relationships. How do we date with hope in the Gospel and confidence in who we are in Christ Jesus?

  4. How can the Gospel actually free us up to handle the different opinions that people maintain on the practicalities of dating? (For ex: semantics/terminology, methodology, manner of going about things that aren't clear in Scripture... the gray areas)

  5. What are some things that Scripture does actually mandate when it comes to dating? 

  6. What is the ultimate hope we have as we date?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who is currently dating?
  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?
  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“I think a lot of times people feel like if you date online it’s like you’re taking this into your own hands, but that is not the heart in it for a lot of people, it’s become so normal. I heard a statistic the other day that 1 in 3 relationships these days begins online!”

“Have you heard the saying, ‘God doesn’t move parked cars?’ I have the mentality that I don’t want to just sit and wait for God to bring me someone. I do trust Him in this process, but I think there’s great value in going out on dates and learning more about yourself through that process, what you’re looking for in someone else and how to articulate the things that are important to you and presenting yourself in that way and manner.”

“When I think about my purpose in life, sometimes I can make dating my purpose, and not just dating, but marriage.”

“I know that marriage is this covenant picture we have on earth of our relationship with God and how Christ loves the Church, and so I have a great desire to have that, and eventually I desire to raise children to know the Lord too. But that’s not my purpose.”

“If we talk about the big picture of the gospel there’s 3 questions every man and woman must ask in life, regardless of if you’re a Christian or not, these are just human questions. Where did we come from and who are we, what has gone wrong with the world, and what can we do to fix it? Everyone has their own answer to these questions...people of all worldviews agree that the world is not as it should be, we just disagree with what that problem is. With Christianity, the gospel answers these questions for us. We know and acknowledge that we were created by God in His image, His image bearers, and even before the fall, before sin, He said to go out into the world, multiply, and subdue it. That’s what He tells us to do even before the fall, but then we have sin. That’s what has gone wrong with the world, Genesis 3 happened and sin is the problem. What can we do to fix it? God did that for us. We’re saved by a God who died for us in order to restore us. So, Jesus changed everything and He gave us a purpose with 2 simple words, ‘Follow Me’, and that changed everything. When I became a Christian that’s what I’m saying I’ll do...follow Him.”

“Going back to dating, we kind of think of our relationship with God as a transactional relationship, like ‘Lord I’ll do this and in return You’re going to bless me in this way’, and the natural order of life that happens most often is (childhood, high school, college or a job, marriage, children, repeat)...I end up getting upset with God because I feel like He didn’t uphold His end of the contract. Look at all this I’ve done! Why have you not given me this at this time? But the reality is if you do look at it as a contract, when I was becoming a Christian God gave me a piece of paper that was blank and said ‘Follow Me’ and I signed that regardless of what life looks like.”

“...trust the Lord with His timing and the way He is growing you as a person.”

“I wouldn’t trade the times when I’ve experienced intimacy with the Lord and the growing that comes from that for anything.”

“It’s so much better for me to look at the situation where He has me and be content in that and love that, because He is a good God and He has us there for a purpose, which is knowing Him and intimacy with Him.” 

“I think about some of the insecurities that can come up in dating…’are my standards too high?’...‘Am I not good enough?’...And then it gets deeper, ‘am I not hearing God correctly?’ I can be at a wedding sitting in the pew and sometimes I get this twinge of ‘Why hasn’t God done that for me?’ and at its root there’s sin. That’s envy or distrust and I have a choice then what to do with that thought. I can let it rob me of my joy in the moment or I can turn it into a prayer expressing my desire, clinging to trust in God’s leading and plan in my life.”

“There’s this great quote by C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity-- ‘I’m sure that God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait.’ If C.S. Lewis were alive I would have to ask his forgiveness because he’s not talking about dating in this quote (I think he’s talking about church denominations!) but I like it because he paints this picture of a man in a hallway, and the thing the man is seeking is behind a door, yet God has him in the hallway waiting. So he wants to enter through the door but this is where God has him. And he says, ‘When you do enter your room you will find that the long wait has done you some kind of good which you would not have had otherwise. But you must regard it as waiting, not as camping. You must keep on praying for light, and above all you must be asking which door is the true one, not which pleases you best by its paint and paneling.’”  

“I’m praying for light and asking the Lord which door is the true one: is it this man or that man, is it singleness? I want the true one and I want to choose joy in the midst of me being in the hallway.”

“God gave His people the law, this standard He wanted His people to abide by, and it was laborious...it was a standard no man could achieve. God, knowing this, even set about standards in which you could purify yourself so that you could commune with God because He so desires to ‘tabernacle’ with us, to dwell with us, and so there were standards and sacrifices put in place so that we could be purified. With His Son, in Jesus’ life death and resurrection, He made it possible for us to know Him without the need for sacrifice. So, going back to the law, Jesus helped clarify some of these things for us. He said, ‘You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.’ (Matthew 5:27-28) Jesus came to fulfill the law, so it’s not hopeless for us that we can’t achieve these standards--He paid that penalty and now we’re free from sin--but what we do see is that Jesus is about the intent of the heart.”

“In any grey area or semantic of dating, the intent of your heart is what is important.”

“Scripture says the heart is deceitful, so there are two really good tests or thermometers for this. The first is God’s Word. God doesn’t speak to everything in the Bible, there are things that aren’t clear, but knowing scripture and knowing the heart of the Father, which is revealed in His Word, can provide illumination to these grey areas. ‘Your Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.’ I like to think about grey areas that way. I don’t search scripture to specifically answer whatever that question is because I might not find it, but what I can do is put scripture in my heart and ask myself what this says about God and how He designed things and created them to be.”

“I don’t think dating is just between you and the other person...you should let people in on that. You need people to hold you accountable.”

“If you find yourself in a dating relationship and you’re worried about what your friends might think, that’s a red flag.”

“Scripture is very clear about fleeing from sexual immorality...that’s a pretty big piece to put over your dating relationship. Our culture perpetuates that, it’s totally normal and even celebrated to not suppress your sexual desires, and that is everywhere that we look.” 

“I have walked with many women who have made mistakes in this area or tricked themselves in the moment to say this is good for me and regretted it afterward, so I understand the weight of that and the temptation to succumb to that, and God is merciful even in those times. He is faithful and there is forgiveness and healing in that and redemption on the other end of that.”

“We should be speaking into this, there are so many ministries who do this well and speak into the truth of abstaining from sex until marriage, that’s what God designed it for, and that is very clear in scripture. That’s not a grey area and Jesus took that back to the heart of the issue.”

“Self control is a fruit of the Spirit...When you realize it is, the only way that can be evident in my life is when I am abiding with God, and it always goes back to the heart issue."

“One of the hardest parts of walking with the Lord is confession, and yet it’s so freeing and necessary in our relationship with the Lord and our state of brokenness. You have to be honest. We talked about our heart being deceitful, so if it’s an issue of the heart, I have to be honest before the Lord in confessing that and there’s such peace and freedom on the other end of confession because forgiveness is there and it modifies your behavior. Not only with the Lord, but confessing with people. God asks us to confess our sins to one another, and that goes back to letting people in on your dating relationship as well, even if it’s one trusted friend that you say ‘you have permission to ask me the hard questions about my relationship.’”

“You have to communicate (to others) where your heart is in the midst of dating.”  

“Solomon says in Ecclesiastes that God set eternity in the heart of man, so that’s what our heart really desires. I love the verse ‘delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart’ (Psalm 37:4)...but that verse that can often be misquoted goes back to that prosperity thought that ‘if I delight in God He’ll give me what I want’. But really it’s that our hopes align with His...I love thinking about that in light of what Solomon said about eternity being in the heart of man, that’s truly what my heart desires and I was created for intimacy with the Lord, and I was created to desire that relationship.”

“As Christians, we’re given a new self and a new heart, and we thirst for that relationship (with God). But it’s like we ask for a candy bar when we really need fruit or a coke when we need water, and we do that with dating. But if we can experience intimacy with the Father through abiding with Him (He’s the vine, we’re the branches--John 15), then our dating relationship is much healthier because we’re not seeking to satisfy that longing with another person because it’s satisfied by God, as it should be.”

 

RANDI BETH'S RESOURCES

Scripture first and foremost

The Mingling of Souls by Matt Chandler

Love Song: A Study in the Song of Solomon by Tommy Nelson

How Now Shall We Live by Charles Colson

 

RANDI BETH’S SIMPLE JOYS

"Sit Around Time"

Quoting Movies

Nephews and Niece

 

OTHER Resources

Toward a Biblical Approach to Dating by TGC


Connect with RANDI BETH


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ep. 38 on singleness

Becca Harris

ep. 38 | Singleness  with Becca Harris

In lieu of the upcoming holiday, I decided to bring one of the coolest single ladies I know to chat about singleness. Happy Valentines Day, single ladies! Today’s guest, Becca Harris, is 36, single, loves Jesus, and is mama to two young men that she adopted out of foster care who are now 20 and 17 years old. Becca’s boys moved in when they were 14 and 11. They were 16 and 13 when she adopted them. Becca and I talked about everything from Jesus’ life as a single man to what it looks like to submit our desires to the Lord without shutting the doors on our dreams.  Even if you’re not single, you’ll want to stick around to learn how we can love our single friends better, but beyond that, Becca’s story is an incredible one to hear in general, regardless of your current season. I’m certain it will stir your affections for Jesus and inspire you to walk in obedience to whatever He asks of you. 

I walked away from this conversation inspired to happily follow Jesus in whatever it is that He sets before me. I hope you find Becca’s obedience to Christ just as inspiring as I do! This conversation is actually the second of five episodes we’re putting out on the topic of relationships. If you’re new, be sure to hop back to last week’s episode with Kim Vollendorf on Intimacy with God and subscribe to the podcast to catch next week’s episode on dating! To continue discussing relationships in light of the Gospel throughout the week, find us on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter! Thanks so much for allowing us to journey alongside you! Have a great week! We can’t wait to see you here, next Monday.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are, what you do, and what your life looks like?

  2. We often look at every aspect of Jesus' life, experiences, and character, but fail to consider the reality that Jesus himself was SINGLE! What can we learn about singleness by looking at the model he lived out for us?

  3. Have you always felt accepting of singleness? Do you desire to be married? How can a single woman allow herself to want to be married while submitting this desire to the Lord? How can she fight for contentment in singleness without shutting the door on her dreams?

  4. What might it look like to steward a life of singleness well? We often fixate on the challenges of singleness, but what are the perks/joys of being single? What can you do as a single person that married people cannot do or might find more challenging?

  5. What does intimacy look like for you in your community? How do you feel known and how do people walk alongside you?

  6. How do you gracefully navigate relinquishing the position of "best friend" when your closest friends are getting married and engaged?

  7. As parents, how can we communicate about the future to our kids without giving them the impression that being married or having a family of their own is ultimate/expected?

  8. For the engaged and married ladies, how can we love, support, and encourage our friends that are single? What are the practical needs of singles?

  9. On the flip side, how can a single person love married people well? How can singles use their flexibility to bless other women who are married?

  10. What are some of the WORST things someone could say to a single person? How can singles graciously respond to unhelpful encouragement like, "You'll find someone once you're content with your life as it is and where God has put you," etc?

 

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who is single or who wants to serve/love their single friends well?
  2. What are 3 of your simple joys?
  3. Who has had the biggest influence on your own journey with Jesus?

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“Jesus was single. Paul was single...Jesus is our Lord, and when we look at Paul’s life and ministry, I don’t think we can say that either of them were lacking. If Jesus was lacking then our Savior is not sufficient. Paul was an elder in churches, starting churches, discipling people and sharing the gospel. I don’t think anyone there would have said he wasn’t qualified to do certain aspects of ministry.” 

“Jesus says in John 10:10 ‘I have come that they might have life and have it abundantly.’ He didn’t add an addendum there, that they’ll have it abundantly when they get married and have their 2.5 kids and are able to retire in the Bahamas. No, He says they will have life abundantly in Me.”

“Psalm 16:11, ‘You make known to me the path of life; in Your presence there is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures evermore.’ David is saying there that the joy is in God, not in your circumstances.”

“With most other things in life when we counsel people we tell them to see their job, house, spouse, etc. as gifts God has given you, but that’s not where you find abundant life. Often, for whatever reason, with marriage or singleness we tend to believe that lie more than anywhere else.”

“We really do have a High Priest who sympathizes with us and understands. When we say we feel alone He’s not saying, ‘Get it together’, He’s saying ‘Hey, I know. I felt that too, I remember looking at Peter when he said he didn’t know Me’...He was human too, I’m sure He had the same desire for intimacy that we all do.” 

“He’s a good God who, in His infinite wisdom, is providing and giving me the best gifts that I need and I can trust Him.”

“As a single parent I find myself at times almost shaking my fist at the Lord and saying ‘if you’d just bring a husband...’ not just for myself but for my boys, for them to have a man in their lives, and I’ve so kindly felt the Lord saying, ‘Hey Becca, if that’s what you needed and if that’s what they needed, I would provide it. I don’t withhold good things. I don’t handicap you to make your struggle worse. Everything I do has a purpose, so entrust your soul to Me. Trust Me.”

“For a long time I wrestled with my place. Everyone in marriage gets to display God’s covenantal love...what do I display? I felt like I took a backseat and was missing out on something...I remember the Lord teaching me that singleness is a place for me to display His sufficiency.” 

“Marriage isn’t the end all. Christ is the end all...Christ is my sufficiency.”

“Are you single? Then you are, today, called to singleness. You have to live today as unto the Lord, and where He has you, and not spend it in a state where you’re always longing for something. It’s okay to have that desire, you just have to lay that at the Lord’s feet.” 

“I’ve had friends who’ve had days when they just don’t want to be married because life is hard. We would never counsel them to say ‘well, if you don’t want to be married then don’t be married today’. But with singleness we say if you don’t want to be single then God must not be calling you to singleness. You can’t flip that way, you have to believe this is where God has us and this is how we will live today and trust Him.”

“Don’t shut off the desire to be married. Ask. Pray. But hold it with an open hand, knowing God is still good even if He doesn’t give it to you or doesn’t give it how you wanted it.” 

“Don’t fixate on (getting married) so much that you can’t move forward with what He’s given you to do now.” 

“If you’re single you have the opportunity to serve the church in a big way.”

“It takes a village to raise kids, and what an opportunity for people who don’t have kids, who do have the flexibility in their schedule, to step in and help, whether that’s serving the church or families.”

“There was a lie I was believing that because my friends were married I couldn’t be as close to them, and God’s shown me over time that’s not true. They are human beings too, and there’s a way God has designed community to be close and intimate even when not in a marriage. The lie we believe sometimes is that as a married person they won’t understand my struggle as a single person or vice versa...but we can still pray for each other, speak the gospel into one another, and show up in one another’s lives.” 

“It’s not wrong to teach your kids how to be a good spouse, how to care for one another, what marriage means, those things are all important. We just can’t paint marriage as the ultimate goal.”

“For me, everything I heard about biblical womanhood centered around marriage and motherhood. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized it has to be more than just being married and being a mom. As I’ve watched some of my friends who are married but struggle to have kids, they’re not any less of a woman because they can’t conceive and have kids. I think we have to be careful how we paint what biblical manhood and womanhood is.”

“You want to paint that the most important thing in life is to love God and love people. For most of our kids they are probably going to get married, but I don’t want to paint that as the promise or expectation somehow where they feel they came up short if they don’t.”  

“As a parent, I don’t give my kids good gifts when they deserve them, they don’t get Christmas because they deserve Christmas, I just love to bless them and love to give them what’s good. It’s the same way with God. He’s not saying, ‘When you deserve a husband and get it together and trust me enough then I’ll give you one.’”

 

BECCA'S RESOURCES

 

When People Are Big and God Is Small by Edward T. Welch

Not Yet Married by Marshall Segal (audiobook)

A Praying Life by Paul Miller

 

 

BECCA’S SIMPLE JOYS

Kids

Being active and being outside

Being with friends over a good meal and games


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