ep. 56 | Loneliness with Tiffany Bluhm
On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I chatted with Tiffany Bluhm about loneliness. Tiffany’s personal story is a powerful reminder that God sees us, knows us, and cares for us in the most intimate details. She shares what it was like to process the shame and loneliness that came with knowing she was abandoned at birth. But no matter what our background, we can all relate to feeling lonely in certain seasons of life.
So you’ll know her a little better, Tiffany Bluhm, author of the Never Alone trade book and Bible study, is a Bible teacher and writer who is passionate about helping women come to know their value and purpose because of a loving, redeeming God. In a style that speaks to women right where they are, she shares insights from a life spent chasing after Jesus while walking alongside women from suburbia to the inner city, jails and brothels, and the slums of Kolkata. Tiffany speaks regularly at conferences and events, and writes for a number of websites, print publications, and popular blogs, including the YouVersion Bible app. She is the Gatherer-in-Chief of Sip and Savor, a women's gathering in the South Puget Sound serving over 350 women. She lives in Tacoma, Washington, with her husband and two sons, and blogs at TiffanyBluhm.com. Y’all, this stands out as one of the most moving episodes to date. I hope it serves as a reminder that God is with you, even on your darkest of days.
Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?
Can you share a little of your story with us?
Did being adopted ever contribute to feelings of loneliness or shame?
We live in a time in which we have access to more people than ever before, and yet so many of us wrestle with loneliness. How prevalent is the fear of being alone? Why is that the case?
Why do feelings of loneliness kind of shake us at the root of who we are?
How do those feelings of inadequacy and loneliness cripple us from doing what God has created us to do? What do they keep us from experiencing?
Where does the gospel meet us in our loneliness? What hope do we have?
How can we begin to speak to our loneliness in a Biblical way or preach the truth to ourselves when we feel lonely?
How do we begin to change when we realize that Christ really is our advocate and that the Holy Spirit will not abandon us? How are we better equipped to fight feelings of loneliness once we realize we’ve been given a Helper?
What is the importance of fellowship within the Body of believers, the Church, when it comes to combating feelings of loneliness? And in that same vein, what encouragement do you have for a woman who has experienced feelings of loneliness within the church?
THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST
What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to take a step out of loneliness towards living like she’s never alone?
What are your 3 simple joys?
Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?
"Growing up, I came to grips that it was an awful beginning, but God is the redeemer of it. But now I know Christ was there all along. He is faithful each and every day of our lives from birth."
"Offer Jesus the broken pieces. Life is a journey. We give him pieces as we go. We wonder why one part of our life is going so well and another part is a dumpster fire. If we are not willing to offer that to him on the throne then we cannot see healing from that."
"One of the great places to start to see how Christ feels about you is to look at the women he encountered in the Gospels. Look at these women who all experienced a level of shame. Look at how he treated them and called out who they really were and not how the world saw them."
"The gospel directly addresses loneliness. You have a companion, a redeemer, a savior, a truth teller, one who will not leave you or forsake you."
"The Scripture says David refreshed himself in the Lord when his back was against the wall and his own soldiers were going to turn on him. It takes an enormous amount of self awareness to admit how much things hurt. When we are able to say, 'Lord this is so painful. Where are you in this?' we will find his companionship and his presence."
"God may not act on our behalf in the way we want or in a way that would tidy up our story. But he will be near. We are not promised for things to turn out perfectly. We are promised his companionship."
"The internal belief affects our external actions."
"One of the biggest ways I work through the hard moments is I recall his goodness from times past. I am going to stand on top of that as I walk this out."
"We will not find a happy ending or a complete and redemptive story in anything outside of us on this earth. Whatever we have made our god, whether it is family or finances or friendships, we will always be left wanting more. That is not what is intended to fill us. It will only be satisfied in the King of Kings."
TIFFANY’S RESOURCES FOR LONELINESS
Study the women Jesus encountered
Spiritual and Mental Health
Journal out your story to see God’s hand from beginning to end
Never Alone: Exchanging Your Tender Hurts for God's Healing Grace by Tiffany Bluhm
TIFFANY’S SIMPLE JOY’S
A meal with beautiful food, beautiful ambience, and with people I love.
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