ep. 94 comparison

ep. 94 comparison

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, we’re continuing our ten-part series living in light of redemption. Today I’m chatting with Abigail Dodds about comparison and I’m willing to bet her take on it will leave you with a lot to chew on. Abigail Dodds (BA, Bethel University) is a wife and mother of five children. She writes and teaches Bible studies for the women at Bethlehem Baptist Church, where her husband, Tom, serves as an elder. She’s a writer, as you’ll hear us chat about today.

ep. 93 living in light of redemption

ep. 93  living in light of redemption

In this episode of the Journeywomen podcast Hunter talks with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth on how the little pieces of our story nestle themselves in the context of the greater story of redemption. Nancy has touched the lives of millions of women through Revive Our Hearts and the True Woman movement, calling them to heart revival and biblical womanhood. Her love for Christ and His Word is infectious, and permeates her outreach. Her books have sold more than three million copies and are reaching the hearts of women around the world. Nancy and her husband, Robert, live in Michigan.

ep. 92 the mission of the church

ep. 92 the mission of the church

In this episode, Hunter chats with Trillia Newbell on the mission of the church. They talk about everything from how we see the ancient church fulfilling the mission they were given by Jesus to go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit and teaching them to observe all that Jesus commanded, to how we are united with them in that very same mission today. We pray this episode aids your understanding of what we have been called to as Christ followers, to go into the world by the power of the Spirit with the goal of making disciples by proclaiming the gospel for the glory of God and for the good of the world.

ep. 83 the global church

ep. 83 the global church

In this episode, Hunter chats with Gloria Furman on the global Church. Gloria is a wife, mom, cross-cultural worker, editor, and writer. Gloria shares, “You are part of something far bigger than you, far bigger than your local church. Remember that you are part of something so big! The global Church gathered together for eternity is such a great reality that we have to look forward to!”

ep. 82 ask us anything

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ep. 82 | Ask Us Anything with Brooks Beless

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On today’s episode of Journeywomen I’m chatting with my very own Brooks Beless! If this is your first episode and you have no idea who that is, Brooks is my husband of seven years as of today! Today we answered questions you submitted on Instagram about our love story, our family, and upcoming plans for Journeywomen since this is our very last episode before my maternity leave! Don’t worry, the Lord willing we will be back to airing new episodes of Journeywomen in 2019, but until then, let me share a few of my favorite moments from 2018:


Episode 74 on the Will of God with Jen Wilkin

“God who is the God of all outcomes is able to work with any decision that we make. And that’s what, if we look back on our lives, we typically see him doing. The decision point always seems like the big moment for us, but in reality God is always more concerned with the decision maker than he is with any given decision. I would argue that the better question to ask regarding God’s will is not what should I do but who should I be?”

Episode 65 on Same Sex Attraction, Identity, and the Christian with Jackie Hill Perry

“What God wants me to do is to continually remember the gospel and glean from the gospel as it relates to my temptations, or my desires, or my trials, or my sufferings, or even my victories, in that even in my victories I can be thankful for it where I can thank him truly instead of saying, ‘I did this.’”

Episode 34 on Spiritual Disciplines with Brad Evangelista

“There’s a 25 or maybe 30-year-old mom that may be listening to this and right now one of the fruits that God is building in her life is not feelings of awesomeness, but right now he’s developing in her life spiritual grit. He’s putting calluses, spiritually speaking, on her hands, so that when she is a 55 or 60 year-old-woman 20 or 30 years from now, she’s going to be able to come alongside a young, tired, struggling, frustrated, mom and say, ‘Sister, you’re going to make it,’ and that’s the fruit that God is producing and anchoring and digging deep into a young woman’s life right now. And the thing is, I would say to that sister is just, ‘Hold on, the harvest will come in and through your life of godliness, but it takes time! It takes time.’”  

Episode 61 on Growing in Godliness with Nana Dolce

“You’re not able to repent unless the Spirit of God is working in you to repent. So even if most of your day is filled with repentance, go ahead and press on. If all you’re doing is crawling, crawl. If all you’re doing is limping, limp.”

What a year it’s been! It’s such a joy to get to journey alongside you all. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you won’t miss new episodes with guests like these when we come back on April 1. You can also hop over to social media where we’ll be highlighting episodes from the archives.

  1. What do you do?

  2. Tell us your love story? How did you and Hunter meet?

  3. What was your first impression of one another?

  4. What was your favorite date night when you were dating? What are some of your favorite things to do together now that you’re married?

  5. What are some of your simple joys about marriage?

  6. How did having kids change your marriage and how do you protect your marriage now that you have kiddos?

  7. Do you expect aspects of your parenting to evolve once number three arrives?

  8. What does Hunter do that encourages you the most? Especially if you aren’t a words of affirmation guy.

  9. How does Hunter challenge you to be more like Christ? How do you challenge Hunter?

  1. Do you set goals as a couple?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What three, last minute gift ideas would you suggest for a woman looking to gift something good to her man this Christmas?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your journey with Jesus?

BROOK’S CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEAS

Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy by Eric Metaxas

Martin Luther: The Man Who Rediscovered God and Changed the World by Eric Metaxas

A gift toward his hobby

Time away with guy friends


BROOK’S RESOURCES

Episode 55 on Loving Our Dads Well with Jerad Lopes

You Need A Budget

BROOK’S SIMPLE JOYS

When his daughters greet him getting home from work

Well balanced budget

Time with guys


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ep. 81 on remembering

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ep. 81 | Remembering with Betsy Gómez

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast I’m chatting with Betsy Gómez about remembering. We talked about everything from why it’s important for us to practice the discipline of remembrance to how actually doing so impacts our everyday lives. We really hope you’ll find this conversation helpful as you remember, reflect upon, and rejoice in the reality of the gospel as you look back on your year.
So you’ll know her a little better, Betsy has a passion to help others savor the gospel. She manages the blogs and supervises media for Aviva Nuestros Corazones, the Revive Our Hearts Hispanic outreach. She’s pursuing a master’s degree in Ministry to Women at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. Betsy, her husband, Moisés, and their two sons, Josué and Samuel are soon transitioning to Irving, Texas; where Moises will serve as a Pastor.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. Why is remembering an important practice for believers?

  3. What is it that we are striving to remember?

  4. Where do we see the Bible exhorting us to remember and not forget? Where is the discipline of remembrance practiced in Scripture?

  5. What happened to God’s people when they forgot who he was and what he had promised? What happens when we fail to remember/when we forget?

  6. When we recognize that we’ve forgotten who God is and what he has done for us, what is the appropriate response?

  7. How do you practice the discipline of remembrance on a daily basis? Weekly? Seasonally?

  8. What are some practical ways we can practice the discipline of remembrance in our homes? Churches? With friends?

  9. What are some things that the church at large has practiced, both today and throughout the history of the church, that aid us in remembering who God is and what he has done?

  10. What is the joy doing that together as a church body?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to practice the discipline of remembrance?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“The problem is that sin has distorted all things, including our capacity to keep the truth in mind. Sin has made us forgetful.”

“We need to stick to the same truths of who God is and the goodness of his character.” 

“Biblical remembering is not like a mental exercise. This remembering according to God should lead us to love and treasure God, to obey God. It’s a call to action.”

“The Bible was written as a memorial to God’s people. The fact that God’s Word is a book with a message that has been passed down from generation to generation is an indicator itself that we need to remember the truth and hold fast to it. So we see that throughout the story line of the Bible, God remembering his covenantal relationship with his people.”

“In Genesis, most of the verses about remembering is God telling the people that he remembers. He is not asking his people to do something that he’s not doing.”

“When they forget, the ended up as slaves in misery. They became idolatrous. We are made from the same material that those who made and worshipped the golden calf. We are the same human beings in the same condition. Our spiritual forgetfulness makes us vulnerable to all kinds of lies. And believing lies leads us to all kinds of sin.” 

“When we fail to remember, our memories of the truth of God will fade and we will start serving the god of our desires and our imagination, just like Israel did.” 

“My brain and my heart are like a teflon pan. It’s really hard for the truth to stick.”

“The key for our spiritual amnesia is to intentionally recall and recount God’s faithfulness.”

“Sometimes we remember, but we are not willing to act upon that truth. We need to ask for repentance. And a repentant heart will eventually lead us to praise and thankfulness.”

“I need to inform my emotions with the truth.”

“We want something new to stir up our emotions. But it becomes a religion. We need to get really basic and really honest that we only need Jesus.”

“In a generation where it feels like you can do church online, we are missing the point. The church is intended for us to grow in godliness as a body. You can’t do that virtually. You need to open your life, so they can see what you need to be reminded of.”

“When I feel uncomfortable with where the Lord has placed me, I need to confess to myself that I am making the church experience about myself.”

“The glory of God is the main goal. When I understand that I need community and when I understand that the Bible is my authority, then I am free to serve and to do community with the people I’m surrounded with. I think that we need to surround ourselves with people who will tell us the truth, and we need to be intentional in speaking the truth.”

“We are united in Christ. If the only thing we have in common is the gospel, that’s fine and that’s right. The joy of knowing that we belong to each other is just a rehearsal of what we will do for eternity in heaven.”

“We don’t need anything new. Our duty is to awaken our memories.” -Charles Spurgeon

BETSY’S RESOURCES FOR REMEMBERING

Meditating, memorizing, journaling to remember truths

The Advent calendar with the Jesus Storybook Bible

New Morning Mercies for a daily gospel reminder

Revive our Hearts podcast

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Deuteronomy 4:9

Genesis 8:1

Numbers 16:30

Psalm 77:11

Psalm 103

Luke 22:19

1 Corinthians 11

BETSY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Traveling with her family

Movie nights with hot cocoa and warm bread

Teaching and writing

CONNECT WITH BETSY


Discussion Questions

  1. When are you most prone to experience spiritual forgetfulness?

  2. How can you practice the discipline of remembrance (daily, weekly, and seasonally)?

  3. How can your local church help you remember the gospel?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 80 on when holidays are hard

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ep. 80 | When Holidays Are Hard with Amy Waters

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I brought back my friend Amy Waters to discuss navigating the holidays when it just feels hard! We covered it all, from unmet holiday expectations to weightier stuff, like gathering together after the loss of a loved one. Amy offers us lots of tips from her perspective as a counselor, and of course, she points us to the hope we have in Jesus as we’re in the thick of the holiday season.

So you’ll know her a little better, Amy is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Women’s Bible Study leader, disciple maker, and self-proclaimed theology junkie. Amy spent nearly 10 years on staff at Pine Cove as a Conference Director, and it was there that God gave her a passion for ministering to women and families.  She earned a Masters in Marriage and Family Counseling from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in 2011 and is currently counseling at the Alethia Counseling Center in Tyler, TX. I cannot wait for you to hear from Amy today!

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. As everyone knows, Christmas, and New Years are quickly approaching, Thanksgiving will have just passed when this episode airs, and while that means lots of fun family time for some of us, this is also a difficult time for many. Other than the logistics involved with purchasing presents, eating too much, and being overloaded with parties, what is it can make the holidays so hard?

  3. Why is it that holidays, in particular, tend to draw out even more sadness or friction than every other day?

  4. What is our hope, even when holidays are hard? Even when everything seems to be going wrong, what hope do we have?

  5. What encouragement do you have for the woman filled with dread even thinking about the next few months?

  6. What about the woman who is expecting to have a great holiday season, but who finds herself completely blindsided by unmet expectations?

  7. What would it look like to communicate expectations on the front end, whether they be financial, relational, or logistical? When might this be a good idea?

  8. Even then, if the expectations go unmet, how can we graciously move forward in the hope we have in Jesus?

  9. What would it look like to come alongside a friend or family member who is having a really difficult time with the holidays? How can we love them well, enter into their suffering, and extend compassion (even if we really just want to have a good time)?

  10. What opportunity are we presented with when it comes to the holidays, even if they are hard for us?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to navigate this season well?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“Because families operate as systems, for everything to flow, we have to play our part. So even if that really isn’t a healthy system at all, we really tend to feel this gravitation to play our part.”

“We need to accept that that script is probably what is going to be. And even if we can’t change anyone else’s lines, I have control over what my lines are. If I decide that I just want to be gracious and my words seasoned and ready to give an answer for the hope that I have, sometimes deciding ahead of time what your line is going to be decide ahead of time that I’m going to have different lines this year.”

“In 1 Peter 1:13 he commands us to set our hope fully on the grace that will be brought to us at the revelation Jesus Christ. That includes the holidays. When I walk into Thanksgiving, when I walk into Christmas, when I walk into Valentine's day, or whatever holiday it is, I’m going to set my hope fully on the grace that will brought to me upon the revelation of Jesus Christ. If our hope is anchored to Christ, our identity is rooted in him and his work on the cross. Our joy comes from being invited to enter into his joy, our victory is connected to the power of the resurrection, then we don’t have to be so self protective. And if we’re anchored to Jesus we can let go of busying ourselves with temporary and fleeting joys and hold onto the everlasting joy.”

“Maybe we aren’t fully set on the hope of Jesus in the holiday because we think holidays are about other things.”

“We tend to grieve to the degree that we are confronted with the loss. So holidays put us in a place where we have no choice but to face our losses.”

“There is a sense where holidays are connected to family in that our traditions are one of the places where we get our sense of us, our sense of who we are. ‘We always do this, we used to do this, what will we do this year.’ There is a sense of community connected to the holidays.” 

“The truth is holidays are meant be played out in community. Holidays are made and created to call our hearts heavenward. They’re meant to be a set apart time for us to celebrate or to worship or to contemplate.”

“Even when we see feasts in the Scriptures, those are set apart to call your heart to some truth about who God is. And we do that with family. But when we switch those and make the object of our worship at the holidays family, of course we’re disappointed.”

“Romans 8:32 says that ‘he who did not spare his own son gave himself up for us will he not also with him graciously give us all things?’ So whatever difficult thing you’ve just experienced at Thanksgiving has also been graciously given to you.”

“We tend to think of those gracious gifts as the happy and joyful. But if God gave you perseverance to endure or to be gracious to someone who wasn’t gracious to you or to magnify the forgiving nature of Jesus as we forgive other people, that was a gift from him, too.”

“We need to be relentless in our hoping. Dread and anxiety are best friends. Part of what I’m doing when I’m dreading is picturing the horrible thing that is going to happen or how this is going to go or how much it’s going to cost me emotionally. And when we are doing that, we have to really actively seek the hand of God.”

“The framework for our counseling is this idea of extracting the precious from the worthless. Can I find the hand of God in the midst of the storm, the chaos, the failure, the disappointment? Where is his hand? Is he teaching me something? Is he sanctifying me? Is he giving me a long suffering that is like the long suffering of Christ? There is the hand of God. Is he showing me this world is not my home and the home I long for is heaven? Well, there is the hand of God. I think we can find his hand anywhere that the believer walks.”

“There is an element of grace that I want to have when I come to the table to not expect sinners to not act like sinners.” 

“Give a gracious view of where people are and be okay with loving people where they are because that’s what he does for us.”

“Two of the hardest emotions to deal with are being disappointed and the only one worse to deal with is being disappointing to other people.”

“The gap between what we want and what we have, there lives disappointment and grief.” 

“There was some contemplation that I needed. Am I making too much of myself in motherhood? Did I put myself up in a position to be admired and worshiped here? As opposed to being so grateful to the Lord that he had given.” 

“If we can communicate early and often and communicate clearly, we can limit a lot of those disappointments.” 

“Gifts ought to live in the world of gifts, not wages.”

“We can’t be held responsible for how someone responds. That really has to be between them and the Lord. When you’re dealing with a critical spirit or someone who just really can’t be pleased, I think it’s good to just go in remembering that’s what it is.”

“When we are in that difficult place, those are the times that we cling to him and we look back and see that part of the gift of that suffering is that we clung to him.”

“There is nothing, including family drama and loss and suffering, that he doesn’t understand. He is Emmanuel, and he cares tenderly for us and came to be with us. He met us where we were in every way.” 

“Or it’s Valentine’s Day and I’m alone. But to remember I have the love of God and he chose us in him before the foundation of the world. And he’s personal and ravish with his gifts.”

“With grief, particularly, we want to plan for it. We want to remember that grief is going to be a part of the holiday. And to pretend like it won’t be is setting yourself up for disappointment.”

“One of the sweetest things that heaven will have for us is we will all be who we ought to be.”

“The expectation that holidays are only wrapped up in happiness is missing some of the depth and the color that God paints in holidays.”

AMY’S RESOURCES FOR WHEN HOLIDAYS ARE HARD

Counseling

Treasuring God in our Traditions by Noel Piper (free PDF!)

Talk through your expectations with a trusted friend

OTHER RESOURCES

Episode 6 on Relating To Your Emotions with Amy Waters

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

1 Peter 1:13

Romans 8:32

Jeremiah 15

AMY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Pie Breakfast at Thanksgiving

Cup of coffee with her mom and sisters for “happy time” at Christmas

Cooking


Discussion Questions

  1. Do you anticipate anything being difficult this holiday season? If so, what?

  2. What are the scripts you desire to change?

  3. What is this holiday actually about?

  4. How can we glorify God as we go about this holiday season?

  5. Where can you see the hand of God in your holidays already? Pray and ask him to give you eyes to see him working in and through the coming weeks.


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ep. 79 on gratitude and hospitality

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ep. 79 | Gratitude and Hospitality with Mary Mohler

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I’m chatting with Mary Mohler about gratitude and hospitality. We talk about everything from where we see hospitality modeled in the Bible to how the gospel actually enables us to be grateful and hospitable no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in.

As a veteran hostess, Mary shared some helpful, practical tips for opening our homes, as well as encouragement for those of us who feel a little more burdened as opposed to grateful when it comes to hosting and serving this time of year. We really hope this conversation encourages you to welcome others in as Christ has welcomed us.

I think you’ll find Mary as delightful as I did. So you’ll know her a little better, she serves in ministry as the president’s wife at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky.  She is also the founder and director of Seminary Wives Institute, an academic program for student wives started 20 years ago at Southern Seminary. She has been married to Dr. R. Albert Mohler, Jr. for 35 years.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. Do you have some sort of definition for what it means to be truly grateful?

  3. What encouragement do you have for someone who tends to view life as though the glass is half-empty?

  4. How does the gospel enable us to be grateful no matter what our circumstances are?

  5. How does practicing gratitude lead us to share what God has given us with others?

  6. What is hospitality? Why do we practice hospitality?

  7. What’s the difference between biblical hospitality verses worldly hospitality?

  8. How do we see hospitality modeled in the gospel?

  9. How does opening our home enable us to both model and share the gospel and our gratitude for what God has done for us through the person of his Son, Jesus?

  10. What encouragement do you have for someone who has limited capacity and feels like they don’t have margin to welcome others into their home?

  11. What are some practical tips for practicing gratitude?

  12. What are some practical tips for welcoming others into our homes in a season of parenting small children? How about in college? In an apartment or even living with another family?

  13. What encouragement do you have for someone who feels like practicing hospitality is more of a burden than a delight?

  14. What is the joy in opening our homes and welcoming others as Christ has welcomed us?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to practice gratitude and hospitality?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“If you bump into us, gratitude should spill out of us for the simple and glorious reason that we’ve been reconciled to God through Jesus Christ, bought with the price of his blood, and thus we live a life that overflows with thankfulness.”

“We define being truly grateful as being mindful of the kindnesses extended to us by those we encounter and eagerly wanting to let them know how we appreciate them.”

“I would encourage us to zoom out to see the glass half full and consider the wonder of the cross anew.”

“Those of us who belong to Christ have overwhelming cause to be grateful regardless of the circumstances. Our lives are now hidden with Christ in God, nothing and no one can ever change that, and we have the unmitigated joy of living the remainder of our lives on this earth in service to our King with the inexpressible anticipation of spending eternity with him. The world can’t understand our resolute certainty as we live by faith and not by sight. And nevertheless we know, he will hold us fast.”

“The folly is to think if we didn’t have to face a certain circumstance, then we would surely be thankful.”

“We all know many people who seem to have multiple thorns that are particularly sharp, but we trust the sovereign Lord who is always at work and will deliver us safely home. And even when our finite minds cannot make sense of it, we are still commanded to abound in gratitude.”

“The best way that we can please him is to hear the word of the Lord and obey it. And his word tells us clearly that we are to outdo each other in showing honor. We are to meet the needs of the saints as we practice hospitality. We are to love each other with brotherly affection. We are to seek to do this every day.”

“Biblical hospitality seeks to meet others needs without any desire for affirmation or attention or payback. It’s simply about making people feel loved, and it can take so many forms.”

“Unlike entertaining, Biblical hospitality is more concerned with serving and not impressing them. It’s seeking to bring comfort and edification, and it has nothing to do with showing off or being selfish or pointing attention to yourself.”

“This is the time to show gratitude for the truth that Jesus loves you. He made you, he’s kept you, and he’s preparing a home in heaven for you that you’ve done absolutely nothing to earn or deserve. And you believe that with all your heart. And that’s why you smile, and that’s why you’re at peace when bad things happen.” 

“No excuses are listed. We are supposed to be those people who spill out with gratitude when you bump into us. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you’re on some proverbial treadmill for the next 15 years, and when you get off of this, then you’ll practice hospitality. We have to prayerfully seek opportunities to make it a delight in this season.”

“The joy is found in the fact that we are indeed physically, spiritually, mentally, and materially able to open our homes. Not everyone is able to say that. But you and I are able to say that. We are those. We can open our homes to those the Lord has sent our way. We may be ones he may choose to use if we are just obedient. Imagine the joy we will experience when we get to heaven.”

MARY’S RESOURCES FOR GRATITUDE AND HOSPITALITY

Growing in Gratitude by Mary Mohler

A Life That Says Welcome by Karen Ehman

The Gospel Comes with a House Key by Rosaria Butterfield

OTHER RESOURCES

Albert Mohler’s website

The Briefing podcast by Albert Mohler

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Colossians 2:6-7

Colossians 3:1

James 1

Luke 11:28

1 Peter 4:9

MARY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Playing with her grandsons

Planning in her paper planner

Fountain diet coke


Discussion Questions

  1. How does the gospel allow you to be grateful in this season?

  2. What is hospitality? How is it modeled in the gospel?

  3. How can you practice hospitality?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 78 on advent

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ep. 78 | Advent with Amanda Bible Williams

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On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I’m chatting with Amanda Bible Williams of She Reads Truth about all things Advent! We talked about everything from what Advent is, to what it means for us personally.

So you’ll know her a little better, Amanda Bible Williams likes words and books more than just about anything. As Chief Content Officer of She Reads Truth, Amanda spends her days happily rearranging sentences and explaining that her maiden name really is Bible. I can’t wait for you guys to hear from her today! I also want to let you know Amanda and the She Reads Truth team are graciously gifting us 15% off any order of their Advent products by using the code JOURNEY15 at the checkout.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What was your experience like with Advent growing up?

  3. What is the purpose behind practicing Advent?

  4. When did this practice come about in church history?

  5. What are we actually celebrating?

  6. How does Advent prepare our hearts for the birth of Christ?

  7. How does practicing Advent enhance our understanding of the gospel?

  8. What are some tips for someone who feels really overwhelmed by Advent? Is there a "simple" way to start?

  9. What are some ways you practice Advent as a family?

  10. What is the joy in practicing Advent?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to practice Advent?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“Advent is not prescribed to us in Scripture. But it is so helpful. The purpose is to prepare our hearts to celebrate the coming of Christ.”

“It reminds us that we are between two advents. Jesus came and walked the earth, and he is living. But he has promised that he will come again and bring the new heavens and the new earth. And that will be his second coming, or his second arrival.”

“For me personally, Advent serves kind of a dual purpose of remembering why I needed Jesus to come, why we need Jesus, and also, that he did, and how he did, and just to sort of take some time and spend some time in these Scriptures where we see that this was God’s plan. Since before the foundation of the earth this has been God’s plan. This was not an afterthought. This was God’s plan, and it is his love to us, to send his Son, to live the life we couldn’t live, to die the death that we deserve to die, and then to defeat death.”

“…to remember that I love it here, but this world is not my home. I love my house and my office and my family. But there isn’t a day that goes by that we aren’t all reminded a dozen times that we are broken and the world is broken. The Lord restores, and he is restoring things now, as we speak, but that is a process and won’t be finished until he comes again.”

“Advent is a good reminder that we aren’t the first people to ache for our true home. It’s a good reminder to me that the story of Jesus is a real story.”

“Advent is not something we do to prove ourselves as Christians or good parents. The purpose is to turn our hearts toward Jesus.”

“It is a month of the year where I am more reminded to do what I want to do every day of the year, which is to turn toward Jesus, open God’s Word, and say ‘this is all about you.’”

“Advent has been a time of sanctification. Not only can I not get advent right, but I really need a savior. I don’t just kind of need a savior. I desperately need a savior.” 

“The joy is to remember that every small or big thing that I take joy in is a gift from God.”

“I worry that we have lost the art of celebrating. Advent is a quieting of the heart and it does remind us that the deeper your repentance, the deeper your joy. Like the quote ‘the larger your view of your sin, the larger your view of the cross’. But don’t just wallow in that. Turn immediately to the cross and rejoice. Turn immediately to the manger and rejoice!”

AMANDA’S RESOURCES FOR ADVENT

She Reads Truth Advent Books

The Advent of the Lamb of God by Russ Ramsey

Advent Table Cards

AMANDA’S SIMPLE JOYS

Sunrises

Sleep

Toby, her son

 

CONNECT WITH AMANDA


Discussion Questions

  1. What has been your experience with Advent?

  2. How does Advent prepare our hearts for the coming of Christ?

  3. How can your practice Advent this year?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 77 on unhealthy friendships

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ep. 77 | Friendship Idolatry with Kelly Needham

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Last week on the Journeywomen Podcast, Catherine Parks and I discussed how confession, repentance, and prayer deepen our friendships in the body of Christ. Today, we’re going to continue the conversation on friendship with Kelly Needham. Kelly and I talked about something that isn’t a super popular topic of conversation, but that we’ve probably all experienced on some level: unhealthy friendships. We ran the gamut on everything from common signs of unhealthy friendships to how the gospel frees us to really love one another earnestly, since love covers over a multitude of sins.

So you’ll know her a little better before we get started, Kelly first began writing and speaking to her husband Jimmy’s fan base in 2008 as they traveled together. She is a regular contributor for Revive Our Hearts, and her writing has been featured at Desiring God, The Gospel Coalition, The Ethics and Religious Liberties Commission, Eternal Perspectives Ministries, and Crosswalk.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. What is codependency or unhealthy friendship?

  3. Where did this problem originate? What hope do we have despite the reality of the fall?

  4. What types of relationships can become codependent? How might codependency manifest itself in a friendship? Romantic relationship? Parent/child relationship?

  5. How can we know if/when a relationship becomes unhealthy? What things might we find ourselves worrying about or dwelling on if we are in a codependent relationship?

  6. How should we respond to someone if we sense they struggle with codependency? How should we handle situations where we feel like someone is pursuing us in friendship if they display strong codependent tendencies?

  7. How does the gospel free us of our need to be codependent in our relationships?

  8. If you’re in a codependent relationship, how might we begin to believe that Jesus is better and that he is enough?

  9. How can we best love and encourage those who struggle with codependency from a gospel perspective?

  10. What would it look like to walk forward in the freedom of the gospel and welcome one another as Christ has welcomed us?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in better understanding codependency?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“There is so much hope because the thing that was irreparable, relationship with God, was repaired in Christ. I don’t know if there is anything harder to do in the world than to take sinners like ourselves and make it a reality for them to be able to engage with a God who is holy.”

“Anytime we look at another human and say, ‘you are what I need to be okay’ is the essence of this issue. We are associating our dependency and being okay with a person and not with God.”

“God used it to show me that there is something of my identity, safety, and security that you have attached to [your husband] because you lose the ability to serve him in this moment because you’re obsessing about these things that could interfere.”

“When we are spiraling, it’s a red flag to know that I’ve attached some sort of my emotional, spiritual, or physical well being to this person, and that’s not okay. They can’t bear that weight.”

“Grief is an acceptance of the loss. It is saying that I’m losing this thing, and I am going to be sad about it.”

“This is a human problem. Some of us may let this seed of sin in our hearts come into full bloom in a way that is far more severe than someone else. But I see these tendencies in my heart all the time. It’s right for all of us to talk about these things, and say, ‘I do these things sometimes’.”

“The gospel frees us because it ushers us into an unhindered fellowship with the living God of all creation.”

“There is a reason that we don’t want relationship with God. There is a reason that relationship with other people looks more appealing. To be known by and known in relationship with the God of all creation wouldn’t we all want that? Wouldn’t we want Jesus as our best friend? Why are we so slow to take Jesus up on his offer to free us from this pattern of life? There is a cost to knowing God that doesn’t exist with other people. The cost is worth it, but there is a cost. Knowing God means our sin will be exposed.”

“Because with people, we can hide. We can hide things in our hearts that others can’t see, and yet we can still engage in relationship because they don’t know our hearts. But with God, if you are really seeking him and you spend long enough in the Word and prayer, there is a light that gets turned on in your heart. And what you thought was beautiful, you look around and see it’s covered in black mold. Wow, all my motives are for myself. That is the love of God to do that because that sin is like a cancer and will eat us alive. But who likes that moment?”

“Knowing God requires us to be all about him and not ourselves. In friendships, we can get away with putting each other on pedestals and making much of one another. And that doesn’t fly with God because he won’t share his glory with another. It’s actually really good for our souls to not be the center of our own universe, and it is his kindness to dethrone us. But that’s a cost we don’t always want to experience.”

“Knowing God also requires waiting. It requires waiting on him to know him.”

“God can feel near, but it’s not immediate. There isn’t immediate gratification in our relationship with God. It takes perseverance and waiting. And there are a lot of promises for those who wait on God. And he will fulfill each one of them.”

“The Gospel does free us. The freedom we have to know God without fear of retribution through the blood of Christ is the answer.”

“The solution to all of our problems is what saints have been doing for thousands of years. We read the Bible and we pray and we meet with other believers in local churches. The answer is nothing profound.”

“Once you’ve counted the cost [of following Jesus], then pick a book of the Bible and read a chapter every day. And then talk to God about what you’re reading about him. And then go meet with other believers in a local church. And be consistent in those three disciplines, and I promise you that you will see and feel changes in your relationship with God.”

“There are a lot of people and a lot of avenues in the web-isphere that are giving us ways to know God apart from his Word, and that’s a really scary reality.”

“It’s good to remember that conflict should be in some ways a normal part of Christian friendship. Part of the function of our community, biblically, is to war together against sin. We have an obligation to speak the truth in love to one another. We all have blind spots. We all have the need for our brother or sister to say, ‘hey, I don’t know if you see this tendency in your life, but I do.’”

“My hesitation to enter into those moments is because I’m valuing my own comfort more than the good of my friend.”

“What Christ has called us to do is to love one another how he loved me. And he loved us in a sacrificial way at expense to himself.”

“When we enjoy Christ, we end up with a fountain of wellspring within ourselves. We can come into friendship not to get something out of it but to give something.”

“Jesus said that our unity and our relationships with one another would be how the world would know that he came. It would be a living stamp of approval that Jesus is real, he did come, and he did rise from the grave, and his offer of salvation is true. And we know that because those who follow him are living in such a way that there is unity and freedom and joy and openness in those relationships.”

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Genesis 3

John 17:3

KELLY’S RESOURCES FOR FRIENDSHIP

When People are Big and God is Small by Ed Welch

Knowing God by JI Packer

The Path of Loneliness by Elisabeth Elliot

OTHER RESOURCES

Get updates on Kelly Needham’s Book

Episode 49 on Conflict and Community with PaToya Hall

Episode 69 on Humility with Hannah Anderson

KELLY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Sitting outside

Watching her kids grow up

Reading fun novels

 

CONNECT WITH KELLY


Discussion Questions

  1. What is the root of loneliness?

  2. How can you remember that Jesus is better?

  3. How can a Christian find hope and freedom from unhealthy friendships?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 76 on authentic friendship

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ep. 76 | Authentic Friendship with Catherine Parks

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On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I’m chatting with Catherine Parks about authentic friendships. We talked about everything from the role of confession, repentance, and prayer in our friendships to how the gospel actually restores our relationships with one another when we’ve wronged or been wrong.

Since my conversation with Catherine, I’ve found myself encouraged to walk in authenticity in my own relationships for the building up of the church and ultimately, for the glory of God. I hope you’re encouraged to that end as you listen as well!

So you’ll know our guest a little better, Catherine Parks is a writer and Bible teacher who loves to help women build friendships around Scripture and prayer.

  1. Can you tell us a little more about who you are and what you do?

  2. Why are friendships important for us as believers?

  3. How does the fall affect our friendships?

  4. How does the gospel restore our relationships with God and with others?

  5. How does our sin not only affect us but others around us?

  6. What role does repentance play in our friendships? How do we actually go about practicing it? What should drive our repentance?

  7. How can we understand or get to the root of our sin?

  8. What does it look like to fight the daily battle to taste and see that the Lord is good?

  9. How can we receive the confession of a friend in a way that points them to the cross?

  10. How does the practice of confession, repentance, and prayer impact our friendships?

  11. What are some questions you would ask to help build authentic friendships?

  12. What will it look like for us to be our true selves and worship God together in the new heavens and the new earth?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who desires to grow in this area?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“It’s not an accident that we have these longings for deeper relationships. That is something that God gave us, and he wanted us to have. Ultimately, it comes from who God is and the nature of the Trinity.”

“When the conflict comes, we blame the people that we are supposed to love. Immediately, these walls go up when conflict enters, and we go straight to self preservation instead of sacrificial love. We see this obviously when Adam and Eve do it in Genesis 3, but it’s less obvious when I’m doing it.”

“It’s risky for us to let someone else in. We might get hurt or things that we would want to hide might be revealed. So we cover ourselves.”

“But the good news about Jesus coming and living the perfect life we couldn’t live and dying as the perfect sacrifice that we desperately needed and then rising again to give us perfect hope, this changes everything about our relationships. First, we are brought near to our Father. And we are given the Holy Spirit to help and comfort and empower us.”

“Ultimately, being forgiven by God in Christ means you and I are able to forgive others when they wrong us. And we are able to humbly ask for forgiveness when we wrong others.”

“A good friendship is one where we actually press into the things that bring conflict and we work through them together. A good friendship is going to be sanctifying for us. It’s one that we aren’t just going to give up and quit when things get difficult.” 

“Hanging out is important. But in Christian friendship it’s fighting the battle against indwelling sin side by side and fighting to remember our identity in Christ.”

“My sin affects others around us. It is a detriment to the body of Christ. When I forget that my life is in Christ, when I forget that identity, when I set my mind on earthly things, and when I don’t put to death what belongs to my earthly nature, then this has huge implications for those around me.” 

“It is in our hearts to compare and to justify ourselves based on what we see around us. So when I give in to sin, and I excuse it, then it gives those around me the appearance of freedom to do the same thing. Nothing good comes from that.”

“God’s kindness and patience with us shouldn’t lead us to take advantage of his love and grace, but instead it should lead us to repent and to walk with him. And we know from 1 John 1 that this isn’t just a one time repentance, but it’s an ongoing one because we turn aside so easily.” 

“When we are regularly repenting of our sin before God then that gives us a freedom to open up, and that will affect our friendships. Because if we’re not hiding from God, then we don't have a reason to hide from each other. But we have a joy and a knowledge of the forgiveness that we’ve been given. And I’ll be free to confess the sin that I’ve been struggling with because I want your help in this fight.”

“When we repent and confess before God, we hate our sin even more. And that leads us to want whoever can get in this fight with us.”

“When we look at the Old Testament, we see that God designed for his people to live in a way that rehearsal and remembering and rejoicing in his salvation was a part of their daily rhythms as a people.”

“It’s also about the rhythms of our lives in a communal sense. Our hearts need regular calibration to what is good and true and right. And we need each other to remind ourselves of our identity in Christ.” 

“True grace is seen at the cross where we receive acceptance and justification and forgiveness that we don’t deserve. Sometimes, with the catch phrase of ‘give each other grace’, we are really missing the meaning of what grace is.”

“What comes out of all of this is joy. Joy in the Lord and joy in these friendships and joy in knowing that we are all forgiven at the cross. The playing field is level there.”

“For all of us, life is short, and we need to use it well, whether you’re living in the same place your whole life or you just moved somewhere. We don’t really have time to waste.”

“In the new creation, you will be your one true self. Right now, you are only a shadow of yourself. But then, you will be more real than you can imagine. One day, we won’t be tempted to hide and cover up and put on fake smiles. We will be fully known, and we will be face to face with Jesus.”

“If you’ve trusted Christ, your real life is secure in him. And one day you and I will experience true joy in the presence of our Father, unburdened by sin, surrounded by friends, and finally real.”

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Genesis 2-3

Colossians 3

Psalm 51

Romans 2:4

1 John 1

Psalm 42

CATHERINE’S RESOURCES FOR FRIENDSHIP

Repentance: A Daring Call to Real Surrender by C. John Miller

The Doctrine of Repentance by Thomas Watson

Psalms by Sandra McCracken

The body of Christ

OTHER RESOURCES

Real: The Surprising Secret to Deeper Relationships by Catherine Parks

CATHERINE’S SIMPLE JOYS

Biographies of heroes of the faith

I Love Lucy

Chai lattes

 

CONNECT WITH CATHERINE


Discussion Questions

  1. What is the goal of Christian friendship?

  2. How does the gospel restore your relationship with God and with others?

  3. How can confession, repentance, and prayer impact your friendships?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 75 on the art of asking intentional questions

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ep. 75 | The Art of Asking Intentional Questions with Lauren Weir

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I’m chatting with Lauren Weir on the topic of asking intentional questions. Y’all know that question-asking is one of my favorite topics, and let me be the first to say that Lauren absolutely knocked it out of the park. We talked about everything from how we can ask intentional questions in our study of the Word to how we can use intentional questions to know and love one another better.

I really believe this conversation will help you in your endeavor to know and love others with the hope of loving them, enjoying them, and leading them to Jesus. So you’ll know her a little better, Lauren is a wife and mother and lover of Jesus with a heart that beats to communicate the goodness and glory of God. Her love for God's Word and discipleship led her to pursue a Master of Biblical Counseling degree from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. She is the owner of Words Worth Noting, a ministry dedicated to providing resources and cultivating life through the beauty of Scripture. Lauren loves counseling, writing, creating, and discipling as much as she loves getting to spend a whole lot of time with her little girl.

I genuinely hope this conversation encourages you to continue growing the skill of asking intentional questions, not only of others, but of yourself and most importantly, in your study of God’s Word.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. Where do we see intentional question asking modeled in Scripture?

  3. What is the aim of goal of asking intentional questions?

  4. Besides inability and newness to a relationship, what do you think are some deeper reasons that may keep us from asking intentional questions?

  5. How can we ask intentional questions in our study of the Word? How can doing that ground us in the gospel?

  6. How can we ask intentional questions of ourselves (for processing purposes or as a heart check)?

  7. How can we ask intentional questions in discipleship relationships? In friendship? When we are getting to know someone?

  8. How does asking intentional questions offer an opportunity to meet people with the gospel?

  9. Practically speaking, what do you think through when you’re asking questions?

  10. What encouragement do you have for someone who feels like they’re really bad at asking good questions? Any practical tips?

  11. What encouragement do you have if and when someone doesn’t receive your questions as you intended? How would you practically navigate that situation and walk yourself through it afterwards?

  12. Do you have any words of caution when it comes to asking intentional questions?

  13. What should our hope be as we embark upon the endeavor to engage others in relationship by using the tool of asking intentional questions?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to grow in their ability to ask intentional questions?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus? 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“God asks ‘where are you?’ We know that he’s not asking for information’s sake. He is asking because he is in relationship with them. So he, the one offended, is actually drawing near and making room for their confession. These questions show us the reality that we are designed to be in relationship with God and all of our actions and desires are never limited to our own experience but are always happening with respect to God.” 

“Essentially the whole book of Job is nothing but questions. Which I think puts on display that we are limited creatures with limited understanding and are left without answers unless God intervenes.” 

“Jesus often asks questions instead of giving answers. He does this intentionally and makes room for their faith to grow. Because when we are simply given answers or instructions, we don’t always allow them to confront what we already believe.”

“We ask intentional questions not just to take in information but for a purpose. The two main purposes I’ve identified are to learn and to love. The learn, to grow, to understand, to gain wisdom and knowledge to navigate this life. The other purpose is really to love. It’s especially about being in relationship.”

“If we are entrusted ambassadors of the ministry of reconciliation, we ultimately love them best by leading them to Jesus. But we can’t lead them if we don’t know where they are. Not everyone experiences life the same way we do.” 

“One of the reason we fail to show concern for others in this deep way is we are too concerned with self. We care more about how we’ll come off or if the relationship will get awkward or uncomfortable. We don’t want to sacrifice our time or our mental space or our image. We are afraid we won’t know what to say. To be able to ask intentional questions really takes getting outside of ourselves and cultivating a Biblical worldview that sees beyond the here and now.”

“We want to be able to forsake any pretense that we don’t need Jesus. To get low and to serve others through opening up our own lives and being honest about the places that we struggle and really be willing to be used by God in anyway so that he may get honor and that we forsake honor in the eyes of men.”

“God created us to be in relationship with him and to understand our purpose and worth in ever increasing measure by being free to come to him and live for him. But sin marred every part of our humanity. Our desires that were once for God have now been turned to self. We were never meant to lives as gods. This worship of self results in shame and loneliness. We experience confusion and chaos, depression and anxiety, disordered thinking that becomes slavery. When we can serve others by asking loving questions that engage that particular place it can bring to light their need of God.”

“All of the affection and the approval you are living for that leaves you empty and searching, God has given you an eternal measure.”

“When I see the fruit of anxiety in my life, the Spirit will often prompt me back to the Lord asking ‘how am I seeking first my own kingdom?’ Or even going to the larger context of Matthew 6 is ‘how am I trying to practice my righteousness in the eyes of men and earn their fleeting reward instead of the reward that comes in secret from my Father?’”

“We often can put God’s Word in a box only asking the application question of what does that have for me today or we come to it with familiarity and we don’t ask questions at all. But God’s Word is so much more than this. It’s the primary and authoritative means by which we know God. It’s meant to shape how we see our entire lives. And this kind of reorienting and transforming of the mind doesn’t come quickly and does not come when we don’t engage humbly and eager to learn.”

“When we ask intentional questions, we can discover important gaps where his teaching hasn’t taken root. From that point on, we can set out to spend time studying a book in Scripture or a certain topic in Scripture to faithfully fulfill Jesus’ desire for discipleship.”

“In friendships, there is a little bit of a difference in responsibility but it’s the same mission. How can I join with him in that work? How can I encourage her to endure with the gospel?”

“What piece of God’s character is this person missing? What is God doing in this person’s life that I can encourage them to engage in or take note of or rejoice in? I am always thinking about what are the roots of what they are expressing.”

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Genesis 3

Luke 6:45

Hebrews 10

Matthew 6

John 6

LAUREN’S RESOURCES FOR INTENTIONAL QUESTIONS

Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands by Paul Tripp

X Ray Questions by David Powlison

How to Study the Bible PDF by Words Worth Noting (free!)

LAUREN’S SIMPLE JOYS

Her daughter

Her writer’s group

Friends to spend time with day to day

 

CONNECT WITH LAUREN


Discussion Questions

  1. Who do you know that is great at asking intentional questions?

  2. How can you ask intentional questions in your study of the Word?

  3. How can you ask intentional questions to yourself? To a friend?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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