ep. 97 Perfectionism

ep. 97 Perfectionism

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, we’re chatting with Laura Wifler and Emily Jensen about perfectionism. If you know Laura and Emily of the Risen Motherhood podcast, it’s no surprise that this conversation really helps apply the realities of the gospel to us when we are living performance-oriented and perfectionistic lives. 

ep. 94 comparison

ep. 94 comparison

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, we’re continuing our ten-part series living in light of redemption. Today we’re chatting with Abigail Dodds about comparison and we’re willing to bet her take on it will leave you with a lot to chew on. Abigail Dodds (BA, Bethel University) is a wife and mother of five children. She writes and teaches Bible studies for the women at Bethlehem Baptist Church, where her husband, Tom, serves as an elder. She’s a writer, as you’ll hear us chat about today.

ep. 93 living in light of redemption

ep. 93  living in light of redemption

In this episode of the Journeywomen podcast we’re talking with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth on how the little pieces of our story nestle themselves in the context of the greater story of redemption. Nancy has touched the lives of millions of women through Revive Our Hearts and the True Woman movement, calling them to heart revival and biblical womanhood. Her love for Christ and His Word is infectious, and permeates her outreach. Her books have sold more than three million copies and are reaching the hearts of women around the world. Nancy and her husband, Robert, live in Michigan.

ep. 92 the mission of the church

ep. 92 the mission of the church

In this episode, Hunter chats with Trillia Newbell on the mission of the church. They talk about everything from how we see the ancient church fulfilling the mission they were given by Jesus to go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit and teaching them to observe all that Jesus commanded, to how we are united with them in that very same mission today. We pray this episode aids your understanding of what we have been called to as Christ followers, to go into the world by the power of the Spirit with the goal of making disciples by proclaiming the gospel for the glory of God and for the good of the world.

ep. 83 the global church

ep. 83 the global church

In this episode, Hunter chats with Gloria Furman on the global Church. Gloria is a wife, mom, cross-cultural worker, editor, and writer. Gloria shares, “You are part of something far bigger than you, far bigger than your local church. Remember that you are part of something so big! The global Church gathered together for eternity is such a great reality that we have to look forward to!”

ep. 82 ask us anything

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ep. 82 | Ask Us Anything with Brooks Beless

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On today’s episode of Journeywomen I’m chatting with my very own Brooks Beless! If this is your first episode and you have no idea who that is, Brooks is my husband of seven years as of today! Today we answered questions you submitted on Instagram about our love story, our family, and upcoming plans for Journeywomen since this is our very last episode before my maternity leave! Don’t worry, the Lord willing we will be back to airing new episodes of Journeywomen in 2019, but until then, let me share a few of my favorite moments from 2018:


Episode 74 on the Will of God with Jen Wilkin

“God who is the God of all outcomes is able to work with any decision that we make. And that’s what, if we look back on our lives, we typically see him doing. The decision point always seems like the big moment for us, but in reality God is always more concerned with the decision maker than he is with any given decision. I would argue that the better question to ask regarding God’s will is not what should I do but who should I be?”

Episode 65 on Same Sex Attraction, Identity, and the Christian with Jackie Hill Perry

“What God wants me to do is to continually remember the gospel and glean from the gospel as it relates to my temptations, or my desires, or my trials, or my sufferings, or even my victories, in that even in my victories I can be thankful for it where I can thank him truly instead of saying, ‘I did this.’”

Episode 34 on Spiritual Disciplines with Brad Evangelista

“There’s a 25 or maybe 30-year-old mom that may be listening to this and right now one of the fruits that God is building in her life is not feelings of awesomeness, but right now he’s developing in her life spiritual grit. He’s putting calluses, spiritually speaking, on her hands, so that when she is a 55 or 60 year-old-woman 20 or 30 years from now, she’s going to be able to come alongside a young, tired, struggling, frustrated, mom and say, ‘Sister, you’re going to make it,’ and that’s the fruit that God is producing and anchoring and digging deep into a young woman’s life right now. And the thing is, I would say to that sister is just, ‘Hold on, the harvest will come in and through your life of godliness, but it takes time! It takes time.’”  

Episode 61 on Growing in Godliness with Nana Dolce

“You’re not able to repent unless the Spirit of God is working in you to repent. So even if most of your day is filled with repentance, go ahead and press on. If all you’re doing is crawling, crawl. If all you’re doing is limping, limp.”

What a year it’s been! It’s such a joy to get to journey alongside you all. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you won’t miss new episodes with guests like these when we come back on April 1. You can also hop over to social media where we’ll be highlighting episodes from the archives.

  1. What do you do?

  2. Tell us your love story? How did you and Hunter meet?

  3. What was your first impression of one another?

  4. What was your favorite date night when you were dating? What are some of your favorite things to do together now that you’re married?

  5. What are some of your simple joys about marriage?

  6. How did having kids change your marriage and how do you protect your marriage now that you have kiddos?

  7. Do you expect aspects of your parenting to evolve once number three arrives?

  8. What does Hunter do that encourages you the most? Especially if you aren’t a words of affirmation guy.

  9. How does Hunter challenge you to be more like Christ? How do you challenge Hunter?

  1. Do you set goals as a couple?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What three, last minute gift ideas would you suggest for a woman looking to gift something good to her man this Christmas?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your journey with Jesus?

BROOK’S CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEAS

Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy by Eric Metaxas

Martin Luther: The Man Who Rediscovered God and Changed the World by Eric Metaxas

A gift toward his hobby

Time away with guy friends


BROOK’S RESOURCES

Episode 55 on Loving Our Dads Well with Jerad Lopes

You Need A Budget

BROOK’S SIMPLE JOYS

When his daughters greet him getting home from work

Well balanced budget

Time with guys


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ep. 81 on remembering

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ep. 81 | Remembering with Betsy Gómez

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast I’m chatting with Betsy Gómez about remembering. We talked about everything from why it’s important for us to practice the discipline of remembrance to how actually doing so impacts our everyday lives. We really hope you’ll find this conversation helpful as you remember, reflect upon, and rejoice in the reality of the gospel as you look back on your year.
So you’ll know her a little better, Betsy has a passion to help others savor the gospel. She manages the blogs and supervises media for Aviva Nuestros Corazones, the Revive Our Hearts Hispanic outreach. She’s pursuing a master’s degree in Ministry to Women at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. Betsy, her husband, Moisés, and their two sons, Josué and Samuel are soon transitioning to Irving, Texas; where Moises will serve as a Pastor.

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. Why is remembering an important practice for believers?

  3. What is it that we are striving to remember?

  4. Where do we see the Bible exhorting us to remember and not forget? Where is the discipline of remembrance practiced in Scripture?

  5. What happened to God’s people when they forgot who he was and what he had promised? What happens when we fail to remember/when we forget?

  6. When we recognize that we’ve forgotten who God is and what he has done for us, what is the appropriate response?

  7. How do you practice the discipline of remembrance on a daily basis? Weekly? Seasonally?

  8. What are some practical ways we can practice the discipline of remembrance in our homes? Churches? With friends?

  9. What are some things that the church at large has practiced, both today and throughout the history of the church, that aid us in remembering who God is and what he has done?

  10. What is the joy doing that together as a church body?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to practice the discipline of remembrance?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“The problem is that sin has distorted all things, including our capacity to keep the truth in mind. Sin has made us forgetful.”

“We need to stick to the same truths of who God is and the goodness of his character.” 

“Biblical remembering is not like a mental exercise. This remembering according to God should lead us to love and treasure God, to obey God. It’s a call to action.”

“The Bible was written as a memorial to God’s people. The fact that God’s Word is a book with a message that has been passed down from generation to generation is an indicator itself that we need to remember the truth and hold fast to it. So we see that throughout the story line of the Bible, God remembering his covenantal relationship with his people.”

“In Genesis, most of the verses about remembering is God telling the people that he remembers. He is not asking his people to do something that he’s not doing.”

“When they forget, the ended up as slaves in misery. They became idolatrous. We are made from the same material that those who made and worshipped the golden calf. We are the same human beings in the same condition. Our spiritual forgetfulness makes us vulnerable to all kinds of lies. And believing lies leads us to all kinds of sin.” 

“When we fail to remember, our memories of the truth of God will fade and we will start serving the god of our desires and our imagination, just like Israel did.” 

“My brain and my heart are like a teflon pan. It’s really hard for the truth to stick.”

“The key for our spiritual amnesia is to intentionally recall and recount God’s faithfulness.”

“Sometimes we remember, but we are not willing to act upon that truth. We need to ask for repentance. And a repentant heart will eventually lead us to praise and thankfulness.”

“I need to inform my emotions with the truth.”

“We want something new to stir up our emotions. But it becomes a religion. We need to get really basic and really honest that we only need Jesus.”

“In a generation where it feels like you can do church online, we are missing the point. The church is intended for us to grow in godliness as a body. You can’t do that virtually. You need to open your life, so they can see what you need to be reminded of.”

“When I feel uncomfortable with where the Lord has placed me, I need to confess to myself that I am making the church experience about myself.”

“The glory of God is the main goal. When I understand that I need community and when I understand that the Bible is my authority, then I am free to serve and to do community with the people I’m surrounded with. I think that we need to surround ourselves with people who will tell us the truth, and we need to be intentional in speaking the truth.”

“We are united in Christ. If the only thing we have in common is the gospel, that’s fine and that’s right. The joy of knowing that we belong to each other is just a rehearsal of what we will do for eternity in heaven.”

“We don’t need anything new. Our duty is to awaken our memories.” -Charles Spurgeon

BETSY’S RESOURCES FOR REMEMBERING

Meditating, memorizing, journaling to remember truths

The Advent calendar with the Jesus Storybook Bible

New Morning Mercies for a daily gospel reminder

Revive our Hearts podcast

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Deuteronomy 4:9

Genesis 8:1

Numbers 16:30

Psalm 77:11

Psalm 103

Luke 22:19

1 Corinthians 11

BETSY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Traveling with her family

Movie nights with hot cocoa and warm bread

Teaching and writing

CONNECT WITH BETSY


Discussion Questions

  1. When are you most prone to experience spiritual forgetfulness?

  2. How can you practice the discipline of remembrance (daily, weekly, and seasonally)?

  3. How can your local church help you remember the gospel?

  4. What are you going to do or implement as a result of what you’ve learned this week?


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ep. 80 on when holidays are hard

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ep. 80 | When Holidays Are Hard with Amy Waters

On today’s episode of the Journeywomen podcast, I brought back my friend Amy Waters to discuss navigating the holidays when it just feels hard! We covered it all, from unmet holiday expectations to weightier stuff, like gathering together after the loss of a loved one. Amy offers us lots of tips from her perspective as a counselor, and of course, she points us to the hope we have in Jesus as we’re in the thick of the holiday season.

So you’ll know her a little better, Amy is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Women’s Bible Study leader, disciple maker, and self-proclaimed theology junkie. Amy spent nearly 10 years on staff at Pine Cove as a Conference Director, and it was there that God gave her a passion for ministering to women and families.  She earned a Masters in Marriage and Family Counseling from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in 2011 and is currently counseling at the Alethia Counseling Center in Tyler, TX. I cannot wait for you to hear from Amy today!

  1. Can you tell us a little about who you are and what you do?

  2. As everyone knows, Christmas, and New Years are quickly approaching, Thanksgiving will have just passed when this episode airs, and while that means lots of fun family time for some of us, this is also a difficult time for many. Other than the logistics involved with purchasing presents, eating too much, and being overloaded with parties, what is it can make the holidays so hard?

  3. Why is it that holidays, in particular, tend to draw out even more sadness or friction than every other day?

  4. What is our hope, even when holidays are hard? Even when everything seems to be going wrong, what hope do we have?

  5. What encouragement do you have for the woman filled with dread even thinking about the next few months?

  6. What about the woman who is expecting to have a great holiday season, but who finds herself completely blindsided by unmet expectations?

  7. What would it look like to communicate expectations on the front end, whether they be financial, relational, or logistical? When might this be a good idea?

  8. Even then, if the expectations go unmet, how can we graciously move forward in the hope we have in Jesus?

  9. What would it look like to come alongside a friend or family member who is having a really difficult time with the holidays? How can we love them well, enter into their suffering, and extend compassion (even if we really just want to have a good time)?

  10. What opportunity are we presented with when it comes to the holidays, even if they are hard for us?

THREE QUESTIONS I ASK EVERY GUEST

  1. What 3 resources would you recommend for someone who wants to navigate this season well?

  2. What are your 3 simple joys?

  3. Who has had the greatest impact on your own journey with Jesus?

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

“Because families operate as systems, for everything to flow, we have to play our part. So even if that really isn’t a healthy system at all, we really tend to feel this gravitation to play our part.”

“We need to accept that that script is probably what is going to be. And even if we can’t change anyone else’s lines, I have control over what my lines are. If I decide that I just want to be gracious and my words seasoned and ready to give an answer for the hope that I have, sometimes deciding ahead of time what your line is going to be decide ahead of time that I’m going to have different lines this year.”

“In 1 Peter 1:13 he commands us to set our hope fully on the grace that will be brought to us at the revelation Jesus Christ. That includes the holidays. When I walk into Thanksgiving, when I walk into Christmas, when I walk into Valentine's day, or whatever holiday it is, I’m going to set my hope fully on the grace that will brought to me upon the revelation of Jesus Christ. If our hope is anchored to Christ, our identity is rooted in him and his work on the cross. Our joy comes from being invited to enter into his joy, our victory is connected to the power of the resurrection, then we don’t have to be so self protective. And if we’re anchored to Jesus we can let go of busying ourselves with temporary and fleeting joys and hold onto the everlasting joy.”

“Maybe we aren’t fully set on the hope of Jesus in the holiday because we think holidays are about other things.”

“We tend to grieve to the degree that we are confronted with the loss. So holidays put us in a place where we have no choice but to face our losses.”

“There is a sense where holidays are connected to family in that our traditions are one of the places where we get our sense of us, our sense of who we are. ‘We always do this, we used to do this, what will we do this year.’ There is a sense of community connected to the holidays.” 

“The truth is holidays are meant be played out in community. Holidays are made and created to call our hearts heavenward. They’re meant to be a set apart time for us to celebrate or to worship or to contemplate.”

“Even when we see feasts in the Scriptures, those are set apart to call your heart to some truth about who God is. And we do that with family. But when we switch those and make the object of our worship at the holidays family, of course we’re disappointed.”

“Romans 8:32 says that ‘he who did not spare his own son gave himself up for us will he not also with him graciously give us all things?’ So whatever difficult thing you’ve just experienced at Thanksgiving has also been graciously given to you.”

“We tend to think of those gracious gifts as the happy and joyful. But if God gave you perseverance to endure or to be gracious to someone who wasn’t gracious to you or to magnify the forgiving nature of Jesus as we forgive other people, that was a gift from him, too.”

“We need to be relentless in our hoping. Dread and anxiety are best friends. Part of what I’m doing when I’m dreading is picturing the horrible thing that is going to happen or how this is going to go or how much it’s going to cost me emotionally. And when we are doing that, we have to really actively seek the hand of God.”

“The framework for our counseling is this idea of extracting the precious from the worthless. Can I find the hand of God in the midst of the storm, the chaos, the failure, the disappointment? Where is his hand? Is he teaching me something? Is he sanctifying me? Is he giving me a long suffering that is like the long suffering of Christ? There is the hand of God. Is he showing me this world is not my home and the home I long for is heaven? Well, there is the hand of God. I think we can find his hand anywhere that the believer walks.”

“There is an element of grace that I want to have when I come to the table to not expect sinners to not act like sinners.” 

“Give a gracious view of where people are and be okay with loving people where they are because that’s what he does for us.”

“Two of the hardest emotions to deal with are being disappointed and the only one worse to deal with is being disappointing to other people.”

“The gap between what we want and what we have, there lives disappointment and grief.” 

“There was some contemplation that I needed. Am I making too much of myself in motherhood? Did I put myself up in a position to be admired and worshiped here? As opposed to being so grateful to the Lord that he had given.” 

“If we can communicate early and often and communicate clearly, we can limit a lot of those disappointments.” 

“Gifts ought to live in the world of gifts, not wages.”

“We can’t be held responsible for how someone responds. That really has to be between them and the Lord. When you’re dealing with a critical spirit or someone who just really can’t be pleased, I think it’s good to just go in remembering that’s what it is.”

“When we are in that difficult place, those are the times that we cling to him and we look back and see that part of the gift of that suffering is that we clung to him.”

“There is nothing, including family drama and loss and suffering, that he doesn’t understand. He is Emmanuel, and he cares tenderly for us and came to be with us. He met us where we were in every way.” 

“Or it’s Valentine’s Day and I’m alone. But to remember I have the love of God and he chose us in him before the foundation of the world. And he’s personal and ravish with his gifts.”

“With grief, particularly, we want to plan for it. We want to remember that grief is going to be a part of the holiday. And to pretend like it won’t be is setting yourself up for disappointment.”

“One of the sweetest things that heaven will have for us is we will all be who we ought to be.”

“The expectation that holidays are only wrapped up in happiness is missing some of the depth and the color that God paints in holidays.”

AMY’S RESOURCES FOR WHEN HOLIDAYS ARE HARD

Counseling

Treasuring God in our Traditions by Noel Piper (free PDF!)

Talk through your expectations with a trusted friend

OTHER RESOURCES

Episode 6 on Relating To Your Emotions with Amy Waters

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

1 Peter 1:13

Romans 8:32

Jeremiah 15

AMY’S SIMPLE JOYS

Pie Breakfast at Thanksgiving

Cup of coffee with her mom and sisters for “happy time” at Christmas

Cooking


Discussion Questions

  1. Do you anticipate anything being difficult this holiday season? If so, what?

  2. What are the scripts you desire to change?

  3. What is this holiday actually about?

  4. How can we glorify God as we go about this holiday season?

  5. Where can you see the hand of God in your holidays already? Pray and ask him to give you eyes to see him working in and through the coming weeks.


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